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The Family Orange

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family

The Family Orange

I love looking at the fresh produce at the grocery store. Often I have been enticed by large, beautiful oranges and then am disappointed to find that what I have purchased is mostly peel! You can't eat the peel but it does serve to protect the fruit that lives inside of it. Sometimes it is juicy and nutritious. Sometimes it is small or rotten. Families can be like oranges. Each of us was raised in an environment surrounded by boundaries or peels that separate us from the world. Often, the thicker the peel, the more dysfunction in the family unit....

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Life Is Choices - Choose Thanksgiving

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Life Is Choices - Choose Thanksgiving

It is so easy to focus on all the things that go wrong in a day or in life. Fall is a season that reminds us to focus on the things that are going right - and to give thanks. The snow comes and with it we may experience dangerous driving, frozen locks, inability to find winter clothing, even flooding when the temperatures vary. But, at the same time, most of us enjoy warm houses, reliable transportation choices, and the promise of spring! Technology is supposed to make life easier but it's rapidly changing advances can leave us with feelings...

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How to Remember - November 11th

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

How to Remember - November 11th

Memory is an interesting faculty of human life. Often I hear clients express concern about not being able to remember everything or recognizing that their memory isn't working as well as it had in the past. My response is to remind them that we are in an age of information and it is not even possible to remember everything. The Internet allows us to access facts within seconds so learning how to search is a wonderful skill that replaces the need to remember. I don't want to remember everything! For example, I have seen over 7,000 clients and I certainly...

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O Christmas Tree

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

O Christmas Tree

I happened to go into a large retail store recently and was absolutely shocked by the extremely long wall that was stocked from floor to ceiling with artificial Christmas trees. Sizes ranged from those suitable for desktops or apartments all the way up to those that were well over nine feet in height. Choices included spruce, pine, fir and even some that appeared to have freshly fallen snow on the branches. Shoppers could choose green, white, silver or even purple. Some trees had lights, fiber optics or optional attachments to hang them upside down from the ceiling. The rows and...

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Life Is Not A Movie

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Life Is Not A Movie

Younger people are shocked when they find out that I was born in the era of "pre-television". I remember the first day that we got the big box that only showed one black and white event at a time with live commercials. O Canada was played at the end of the broadcasting day followed by a test pattern with a soft but steady squeal that could be observed until the following morning. As technology advanced, we wished that we could sit and watch all the holiday shows instead of travelling to visit relatives but there wasn't any way to record...

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A New Year

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

A New Year

I had a lot of company over the Christmas holidays. Some were here just to open gifts. Some came to share a meal and others were here for a few days. People were coming and going while I was the one constant in the celebrations. Because I live alone, the whole experience was very different from my everyday life. There were menus to plan, groceries to buy, gifts to buy and wrap. And I worked throughout the entire preparation stage. We had so much fun - laughing and playing games and sharing stories. By Tuesday morning everyone was gone and...

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Life Is Short! Act Now

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Life Is Short! Act Now

This week my twelve-year-old granddaughter received horrible news. For the second time in a matter of weeks a grandfather has died. Her paternal grandfather had heart surgery about a year ago but seemed to have recovered fairly well. So, everyone was surprised when he passed a few weeks ago. Mikaeli had several opportunities to be with him in her life and got to know him quite well. Because she is so interested in genealogy she was pleased when a number of old photographs were found in his belongings and we have plans to upload these onto the family tree together....

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Labour Day Thoughts

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Labour Day Thoughts

My mother had limited options when it came to choosing a career. She could be a nurse, a nun or a teacher. She wasn't Catholic and didn't think she could handle the duties in nursing. The requirement at the time as preparation for holding a teaching position was to complete a one-year "Normal School" program which she did. Mom taught in small Saskatchewan towns but when my maternal grandmother had both breasts and part of her throat removed because of cancer, she went before the school board to make a proposal. Family was a priority for her. She told her...

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Special Occasions

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family

Special Occasions

Every day of one's life is important but there are four that I believe have particular significance. 1. Birth - On the day you are born, your whole family tree was altered. The fact that you had arrived was a very momentous occasion, not only for you but for everyone around you. Much thought was likely put into choosing a name that will be with you throughout your entire life. Schedules were altered and expenses incurred on your behalf. That occasion was so important that your actual "birth day" continues to be celebrated each year in honour of you! 2....

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Heritage Day - Celebrate!

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Heritage Day - Celebrate!

The first Monday in August offers a long weekend to many Canadians. Each province, however, has adopted a different name for the civic holiday. We hear it called Saskatchewan Day, British Columbia Day, Natal Day (Nova Scotia), and Terry Fox Day (Manitoba). Cites in Ontario have each chosen to name the holiday after a former leader or pioneer such as Alexander McKenzie (Sarnia), Simcoe (Toronto), George Hamilton (Hamilton), of Peter Robinson (Peterborough). Nunavut, Northwest Territories and Prince Edward Island recognize the first Monday of August as a statutory holiday. Quebec, Yukon Newfoundland and Labrador do not celebrate on that date...

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Influence: Parenting and Grandparenting

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Influence: Parenting and Grandparenting

We had three graduations in our family this year, so spring was busy! Andrew turned eighteen in May and graduated from grade twelve in June. I was surprised to watch all the goings-on to prepare him for the ceremonies and celebrations. His brother gave him a suit to wear. His father took him shopping for a belt and shoes. His mother ordered the corsage for his escort and, an hour before we were to leave, was ironing his shirt so it would be freshly pressed. Thinking that this might be an opportunity to provide a little practical direction, I suggested...

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Idaho Bound

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family

Idaho Bound

While you are reading this, I will be in the mountains of Idaho. (At least that's the plan). As you likely know already, I have a strong interest in genealogy. There are over 6200 people on my family tree! But I am not the only person in our lineage who is passionate about this.Melvin Echelberger, my mother's first cousin, has been not only gathering information about our relatives, but also has contact with many of those who are still living. Over the years, Mel and I have consulted with each other by email, FAX and once by telephone when he...

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Mother's Day: Different Types of Mothers

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Mother's Day: Different Types of Mothers

When I was a child we would wear an artificial carnation to church on Mother's Day. Red or pink meant that one's mother was alive whereas white indicated that the person's mother had passed. Since then, I have been thinking about how many different kinds of mothers we recognize in society:1. Birth mother - The woman who conceived and gave birth to you.2. Adoptive mother - The person who legally or formally took on the caregiving responsibilities for you.3. Social mother - A woman who informally took on the role of a parent by your choice, by hers or by...

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Royalty: Victoria Day and Queen Elizabeth II

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Royalty: Victoria Day and Queen Elizabeth II

This year Victoria Day is scheduled for May 22. Although the holiday was named for Queen Victoria, it is her granddaughter Queen Elizabeth who is now honoured on that date. Queen Elizabeth was 91 years old on April 21. Despite this, she moves forward in her reign with a schedule and energy that many who are decades longer could not match. She had 294 engagements in 2016! Movies and documentaries outline the sixty years that she has been on the throne. I believe that none of these, however, describe the importance that she has placed on separation of her personal...

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Fads and Fashion

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Fads and Fashion

Do any of you remember party lines or eight-tracks or home milk delivery by a horse and wagon? All those things were part of everyday life forty or fifty years ago. Times change. Even in the past five or ten years we have experienced significant changes in technology, travel and communication methods. Today I went to have my hair styled and some of the patrons were talking about the fact that perms are coming back into vogue. Some things disappear and then reappear again. Life is very different from the time when Canada became a nation one hundred and fifty...

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A New Month

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

A New Month

I always like starting a new month. Each offers four weeks of interesting opportunities that are just waiting for your involvement. April is even more exciting than most months for a number of reasons: 1. Weather - After months of cold and snow, we finally can wear a lighter jacket to go outdoors. Birds are singing and buds in the trees are opening. The sound of gentle rain that encourages growth can be so relaxing. There are more hours of warm sunshine and a fresh smell in the air that signals a transition in the seasons. 2. Accomplishments - College...

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Top O' The Morning To Ya

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Top O' The Morning To Ya

I gave myself two Christmas presents in December. One was an upright freezer which I love. The other was a DNA kit. Over the past three or four years I have been using computer software to develop my family tree. I made the mistake of putting the branches of all four grandparents on the same tree so now have over 6,000 people listed. It would have been much more manageable if I had made one tree for each branch. Oh well... Because I had so many details about my relatives, I thought that I just knew what the DNA results...

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I'm Fine, But They Need Help!

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family

I'm Fine, But They Need Help!

Every week we receive at least one call from someone who wants me to help their friend, partner or relative. They are surprised when we explain that there are certain things that are important: 1. The other person has to be willing. Unfortunately, no matter how dysfunctional we think that a person or situation is, people never change until life doesn't work for them anymore. You can have the best of intentions and think that things would be better if the other person just did this or that or the other thing. It has to be their idea - not...

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Thanksgiving Weekend

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Thanksgiving Weekend

        . The last four months have not been very typical for me In June I saw all six of my grandchildren even though they live in three different provinces and are each busy with jobs, school and activities. We celebrated the birthdays of each just because we were together despite the date on the calendar at the time. We had fun! In July, five of my first cousins got together in Regina for a family wedding. There are so few of us and there aren't that many weddings in society anymore so it was really special!...

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Thank Them For Their Service

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Thank Them For Their Service

Over the years I have signed contracts to provide therapy for British and Canadian soldiers as well as veterans. Because of this, I have become much more aware of the sacrifices made by the men and women who have fought to obtain and maintain freedom for us. Many service members experience situations that lead to life-long consequences:1. PHYSICAL INJURY - Marching or walking for hours in poor conditions can result in knee and foot problems. Driving tanks can cause ongoing back and hip pain. Traumatic Brain Injury, loss of hearing and serious burns can occur when one is near explosions....

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Holiday Shopping Online

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Holiday Shopping Online

It seems rather strange to go into a store and see end of summer sale items, Halloween costumes, Remembrance Day poppies and Christmas decorations all at the same time. Somehow we have begun blurring the holidays into one big merchandising extravaganza. A lot of things have changed over the years. It is no longer just an orange and some peanuts in a homemade stocking and one gift. Now the theme seems to be "bigger and better". We are bombarded with temptations for buying that is combined with an underlying message that it is our job to make others happy and...

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Christmas Music - Song or Carol

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Christmas Music - Song or Carol

It's December and we are surrounded with reminders that the Christmas season is before us. Outdoor lights on businesses and houses seem to have magically appeared from nowhere. Christmas tree lots have opened. Mailboxes are filled with flyers with the hopes that shoppers will be tempted to purchase items from their pages. And all around us are the sounds of seasonal music. Television commercials use soundtracks that we recognize from our childhood. We know the words to the tunes played and sung at the numerous concerts and events that we will attend over the next few weeks. We search our...

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Christmas Experience

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Christmas Experience

We Three Kings of Orient are; bearing gifts we traverse afar... In 1857 Reverend John Henry Hopkins, Jr. who was an author, book illustrator, stained glass window designer, clergyman and editor of the New York Church Journal wrote this carol for a pageant. The lyrics tell the story of three magi or wise men named Caspar, Melchior, and Balthasar who set out on a long journey with gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh for the baby Jesus. Over the years there have been many debates about whether this carol is accurate in its details. Were there only three wise men?...

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Silent Night and Peace

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Silent Night and Peace

Silent Night. Holy Night. All is calm. All is bright. The First World War lasted from 1914 to 1919. A very strange situation was witnessed in the early months - one had never occurred before or since. On Christmas Eve British, Belgian and French soldiers as well as enemy German troops were in cold, wet trenches on the western front where they had been fighting each other. Suddenly, someone began to sing! And within minutes the voices multiplied each in their own native language. The singing continued and soon soldiers put down their rifles, came out of the trenches and...

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Getting Ready for New Year's Eve

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Getting Ready for New Year's Eve

Midnight on December 31 does not occur at the same moment across the globe. In fact, depending on the time zone involved, ending one year and welcoming the next can even be on different days. When and how you will celebrate is your choice. You do not need to have an expensive plan or unrealistic expectations. Following are some suggestions to help you feel safe and happy on New Year's Eve:1. Determine that you will maintain good boundaries to protect yourself and your values despite the situation or condition of others.2. Consider the fact that you can plan a wonderful...

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