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Responding To Trouble

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Responding To Trouble

I find it so interesting that different people can have exactly the same things happen to them but each will respond in a different manner. One person might get drunk. Another might attempt suicide. A third could seek professional help. A fourth may discuss the situation with a friend or neighbour. A fifth person might not even pay attention or notice that there is trouble. That’s what makes us human. We each have thoughts, feelings and behaviours that we have learned over the years in order to navigate life. So, now that there is such easy access to news from...

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But What If…?

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But What If…?

Over the past few weeks, the world has been experiencing a pandemic which has stolen almost everything that we previously called “Normal”.   No one seems to understand the virus and we are certainly getting very mixed messages from sources that previously we would trust and respect without question.     Articles that I wrote in the past addressed depression and anxiety.  You see, there has likely been degrees of depression and anxiety throughout recorded history – and perhaps even before that.   Those who experience depression are often “stuck” in the past.   They focus on the things that happened which are...

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What Makes Canada Unique?

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What Makes Canada Unique?

It doesn't seem to matter where you go in the world, Canadians are welcomed. We somehow have developed a reputation as being kind, safe, friendly and helpful. But, unfortunately, not many people even in Canada understand how truly blessed we are to live in this unique country. Canada is:   Large - There are over 3.85 million square miles to visit. We have ten provinces and three territories with three sides that are bordered by water. Beautiful - It doesn't matter whether you like forests, lakes, plains or ice - we've got it all! From the large cities to the...

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Will It Ever End?

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Will It Ever End?

I remember when years ago I was working in a government agency. It seemed that staff was frequently complaining about change. They wanted things to always remain the same as they were. One day, in frustration I said, "If we didn't have change, we would all be chasing our supper with a bow and arrow"! Change can be frustrating, especially if it makes us uncomfortable and if there are difficult adjustments to navigate. But change can lead to positive results. I am from the "pre-tv" age. I have been able to see huge changes in technology, science and communications over...

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Who Can You Trust In This Pandemic World?

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Who Can You Trust In This Pandemic World?

It's been several weeks since the world began a shut-down due to COVID-19 and I think we have all noticed a lot of confusing messages that have been circulating since then. Every one of us likes to have some control in our lives and "the unknown" can therefore become an enemy to the people. Since this started however, I have to be honest by saying that I don't think anyone has any really good answers to give us right now. There isn't an exact date as to when everything will open up again. The fact that there are different pockets...

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A Wonderful Role Model

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A Wonderful Role Model

In April Queen Elizabeth II celebrated yet another birthday. She is now 94 years of age! She and her husband, Prince Philip who will have his 98th birthday this year are isolated in Windsor Castle because of the pandemic. Now you may not be a monarchist but, at a personal level, one cannot help but admire the Queen for a number of reasons:   Work ethic - Elizabeth didn't expect to be the Queen of England but when her uncle David abdicated to be with his twice divorced American wife her father became King and she automatically was in line...

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Spring Isn't Cancelled!

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Spring Isn't Cancelled!

I grew up in Saskatchewan but have to admit that winter isn't my favourite season. I always really look forward to spring and here is why:   Nature wakes up - Leaving my patio door open allows me to hear the birds singing and feel the warm breezes. Ice that trapped the river has melted, the trees are budding, and thoughts go to the planting gardens and crops. It is a time of new beginnings. Wardrobes change - How wonderful to be able to go outside without boots, scarves, hats, and jackets. These are replaced with flipflops and single layers...

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Noticing Positives

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Noticing Positives

We are living in a world that can be scary and full of unknowns. Never before has there been anything exactly like the COVID-19 pandemic that has been terrorizing the entire world. Governments have followed recommendations of researchers and health experts in ways that have changed our entire lifestyles. At the same time, however, I have noticed that there are many, many positives that are occurring every day. Following are some of the things that people tell me they have been enjoying:   Time - Being required to respect physical distancing and working from home for those who can, has...

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Working From Home Efficiently

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Working From Home Efficiently

Okay, I admit it. I do not transition very well. For years I have built my business providing face-to-face sessions in my office. Now, due to the COVID-19 I have had to mentally and physically operated my practice from my condo. It took a few days until I was psychologically ready to do this. Now, however, I have a system and am quite comfortable with the new ways of serving clients. Here are some of the things for you consider so that you can successfully work from home:   Attitude - Being at home does not mean that you are...

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Happy Everything!

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Happy Everything!

Shortly after my son moved to Medicine Hat and began working in my private practice, he encouraged me to do some downsizing at the office. I will never forget how shocked he was when he found an envelope in one of the boxes. On the front of it, I had written "Mark's First Haircut". His response was "It can't be. You didn't really save my hair for more than four decades!" Of course, I had! Within minutes we had a pile of "treasures" from his youth including notes he had written in a grade five sex education class and miscellaneous...

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Who Can You Trust and Why?

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Who Can You Trust and Why?

I always find it interesting to watch politicians who attack their opponents and then, when they drop out of the race because of lack of support, back the person who they have been trashing. It is easy to attack others and make promises when you are hoping that others will vote for you! But the process doesn't always seem to be honourable. It is easy to listen to a charming individual who seems to have a good line but keep in mind the old expression that states: If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is". To trust...

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Stand Against Fear

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Stand Against Fear

Journalists know that "what leads - bleeds". People read newspapers and listen to news when there are exciting - not boring - things happening. Twenty-four-hour internet and television broadcasts can throw you into a world of crisis very easily so you need to be careful. Recently, we have been hearing about the presence and pandemic possibilities of the corona virus. Now I am not ignoring the fact that we are facing a problem but, at the same time, I have lived through eras of measle outbreaks, tuberculosis and polio so I tend to believe in the expression my grandmother used...

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Believe What Others Do

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Believe What Others Do

Often individuals are disappointed or resentful after a person who they trust lets them down. Anyone can make promises or say things that they don't mean, and problems occurs if we believe they will follow through. It is especially foolish of us if we know that the person has a pattern of saying things without linking them to congruent actions. So why do you think that people say things they don't mean? There are several reasons:   Unrealistic hopes - There is an old expression that states: "If wishes were horses then beggars would ride". Just because you want something...

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Professional Silos

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Professional Silos

I was raised in a small town in southern Saskatchewan. We had a couple of doctors and a small hospital but seldom had any contact with "specialists" and if required, needed to drive almost an hour to the nearest city for assessment and treatment. The doctors made house calls back then and took care of all our physical and mental illnesses with only the aid of instruments carried in a black bag. Things are VERY different today. It is unusual to think that a doctor might make a house call and those in the medical profession have a narrow scope...

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Hard Work and Courage

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Hard Work and Courage

When my granddaughter Janaya graduated from high school in Saskatoon the school gave her a one-thousand-dollar scholarship for university. She is intelligent but also has an amazing work ethic and invests a lot of time into her studies. Intelligence plus hard work are a good formula for doing well. Even though she played the piano beautifully and was a good artist, she decided that she wanted to study engineering. Not everyone encouraged her in this choice as there is an occupational gender bias in the field. In fact, statistics indicate that less than ten percent of registered engineers in Saskatchewan...

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Slow Down: One Step At A Time

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Slow Down: One Step At A Time

A few years ago, I telephoned a mentor and said "I don't know if I want to live in British Columbia". She was surprised and asked for more information. I told her that I had found an advertisement for what seemed to be an interesting job opportunity in BC. Now mentors are individuals who set a good example for us and offer wise advice. This is exactly what my mentor, Elsie offered me. She said "First you decide if you want to apply for the job. Then you wait to see if they invite you to an interview. If they...

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Valentine: Love Is Not Enough

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Valentine: Love Is Not Enough

I recently spoke at the wedding of a dear friend. My message to the couple who had made vows that day might have surprised some of those who were listening. You see, I told them that love is not enough. Over the years I have been very disappointed to hear individuals state "But I love him" or "I really love her" followed by a description of all the horrible things that they have said and done to each other. There is an expression that states: "Love covers a lot of sins" but who on earth wants to just go through...

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Think Young

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Think Young

I usually smile when I am around young children but there isn't a bigger grin that when I am with my three-year old granddaughter, Nariya. We spent some time together this weekend and she reminded me of so many things in life that adults often forget:   Be curious - Talk about questions! "Grandma, how did you get here?" "Where did you get those cards?" "Do you have Paw Patrol?" Each answer was quickly followed with another one of her questions. She loves to learn and knows that asking questions is a great way to get information. No assumptions on...

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Establishing Routine

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Establishing Routine

I remember when I had my first child. We lived in a basement suite in Tisdale, Saskatchewan. Our landlady told me that the secret to having healthy and happy babies is to keep their stomachs full and their bottoms dry. That sounds simple but there was a lot of wisdom in that advice. Babies don't care if they are dressed in designer fashions. They can sleep through a great deal of noise and usually handle being passed around from one admiring person to the other. The problem is when they start growing. If they don't have a routine or reasonable...

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Your Children Are Now Adults

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Your Children Are Now Adults

I believe that our job as parents is to work ourselves out of a job. This means that it is wise to teach our children how to be independent. Unfortunately, some people seem to think that they are responsible for the choices and behaviours of their offspring long after they have reached legal age. They let them live at home without jobs, schooling or purpose. They pay for not only the basic such as extra electricity, water and food but also finance luxuries. The parents go to work every day to earn money for the bills while the adult child...

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Facing Consequences

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Facing Consequences

Sir Isaac Newton was a scientist who studied motion. His third law states: "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction". Simply put, this means that in every interaction there are two forces at play. The size of the force on the first object equals the size of the force on the second object. Big action, big results. Now that might seem complex but all it really means is that we will face consequences - positive or negative - depending on our actions. For example, debt and payment of debt interact. When you make a payment on your...

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Good Enough?

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Good Enough?

Whitney Houston co-starred with Kevin Costner in the 1992 movie "The Bodyguard". The film was a worldwide hit grossing $411 million. It was Whitney's acting debut and the soundtrack was amazing. One song, "I Will Always Love You" sold 20 million units. Kevin Costner was a speaker at Whitney's funeral. He told about how despite her singing excellence she would come to him after filming each day and ask, "Was I good enough?" This surprised him and he would assure her that she had done a good job. At the funeral he again said "Whitney, you were good enough". This...

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Merry Christmas - Not Necessarily a Good Greeting!

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Merry Christmas - Not Necessarily a Good Greeting!

The Merriam Webster dictionary defines the word "merry" as full of gaiety and high spirits. Unfortunately, that does not describe everyone's experience on any day of the year, let alone at Christmas. There are many during the holiday season who are lonely, sad, or sick. Some face circumstances that involve abuse, addiction or poverty. Many think about unfulfilled wishes or broken promises both given and received. Merry does not describe their situation. The word Christmas usually is referred to as a Christian feast that commemorates the birth of Christ and is honoured as a legal holiday. Not everyone, however, is...

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A New Year With New Goals

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A New Year With New Goals

January is usually a time for setting goals and unfortunately by February many people find that some of them have been abandoned. The gyms are not as full. The musical instrument may not be practiced as much as planned and the cute little Christmas puppy may not seem as cute when there are puddles on the floor to clean up! There are ways to accomplish the goals though:   Make sure that you really want to accomplish it. Your own passion will drive you whereas another person's idea likely won't have the same effect. Keep it manageable - You will...

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What Is Confidence and How Do We Get It?

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What Is Confidence and How Do We Get It?

There are different definitions of the word "confidence" and different ways of viewing the concept.   Keeping a secret - When you have a close friend or co-worker who will take the information you give them and keep it quiet; you are blessed. Not everyone will respect or honour you enough to keep your words private. When someone asks you to keep a confidence, however, you will need to discern whether it is appropriate to do so. Situations including things like abuse or illegal activities do not make good secrets. Belief in something or someone - It is easy to...

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