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Celebrating Life Every Day

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Celebrating Life Every Day

Did you know that May 17th is Norwegian Independence Day? That country's Constitution was signed in 1814 and the citizens continue to celebrate every year with bands, flag waving, traditional dress as well as parades. The Norwegians really celebrate! England also has been celebrating this month, first with a new royal baby and also with the birthday of Queen Victoria on May long weekend. Because we call it the Queen's birthday, people often get confused about the fact that Queen Elizabeth was born in April and the May 24 celebration is actually honouring the birth of her grandmother Queen Victoria...

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Winners - Race Horses and You

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Winners - Race Horses and You

This Week was the multi-million-dollar Kentucky Derby has been held annually in Louisville Kentucky for one hundred forty-five years. Fans not only attend these races at Churchill Downs dressed in finery but also set up parties throughout the world. The Kentucky Derby event is big business! I was thinking about the horses and what factors are accredited with contributing to a win:   Breeding - Most horses that are in the running have parents or grandparents who have had major wins. Considerable research and thought are invested into choosing the two horses with the best genes and characteristics that hopefully,...

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Should You Listen?

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Should You Listen?

Many times, people hear criticism and hold onto it for years allowing it to foster shame. It is important to remember that the people who made the comments might be "talking out of their hat" as the expression goes, before allowing their words to be damaging. Make sure that you do not allow the criticism to facilitate low self-esteem or paralyze you when it comes to moving forward your goals. Before you take another person's comments to heart, consider the following reasons why they were given:   Intent - What is the reason that the words were spoken. Did the...

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Tips for Reducing Stress Long Term

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Tips for Reducing Stress Long Term

So many people tell me that they are overwhelmed and stressed out. They also state that they don't know how to fix this. Following are ten things you can do that will reduce your stress and bring some peace into your life:   Pay your bills - Make sure that what you owe is manageable. Better yet, pay cash for purchases and ensure that all invoices and loans payments are made before the due date. Get enough rest - Turn off the television and computer. Have a warm bath and then crawl into a comfortable bed where it is quiet...

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Tolerations Steal Productivity

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Tolerations Steal Productivity

A few years ago, I hired a personal coach. She taught me a wonderful concept that I have used to this day. A toleration is something that drains our time and energy. It may be as small as a missing button or pile of paperwork that hasn't been sorted. It may be something larger like a vehicle that doesn't run or finishing a renovation project. The problem is that we all tend to tolerate the things that drain our time, energy and patience. We put up with a messy garage and the fact that we cannot find the screwdriver that...

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Perfectly Imperfect Reduces Stress

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Perfectly Imperfect Reduces Stress

I remember my friend Paul once asking me "What do you call the medical student with the lowest passing grade?" The answer is "Doctor". You see the lowest passing grade is still a pass and the student is given the title of Doctor because of it. We are living in a rather interesting world where people have a distorted idea of what they need to do and achieve in order to feel good about themselves. Often, they think that unless they can be perfect there isn't any point in trying. This can lead to feelings of shame, guilt and anxiety...

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Your Personal Wonderland

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Your Personal Wonderland

Most people have been fascinated by the work of Walt Disney who repeatedly turned the impossible into possible over the years. He not only developed Disneyland and Disneyworld which are clean playgrounds for families but also created many fictional characters in the movies that he produced. One of my favourites is "Alice in Wonderland". It tells a story of bizarre happenings for a young girl who falls down a rabbit hole. Many of the characters probably resemble some real-life individuals you have met.   Alice is a rather naïve but polite young person who is curious and eager to chase...

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Downsizing Your Life

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Downsizing Your Life

My friend is moving from her house into a retirement condo this month. The square footage is approximately one third of the size. The house, of course, is full because she has had twenty years to accumulate! I thought I would share some of the ways that we are preparing:   Consulting - Talking with real estate agents, new residence staff and movers will provide you with nuggets of wisdom to save time and effort. My son who is coordinating the physical move told us not to remove shoes from boxes but instead to use packing tape to bind them...

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I Need a Break

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I Need a Break

Work and family demands or the weather can get us to thinking about getting away from it all! Unfortunately, many people go away on vacation and return feeling tired and stressed. Here are some things to consider:   Stay home - If you really need a rest, you could just plan to take time off from your job and not go anywhere. You likely have reading, movies and hobbies that never get touched because of busyness and staying at home can offer you a cost-free opportunity to enjoy them. Consider the timing - Deciding to go on a trip can...

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Why Are You Angry?

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Why Are You Angry?

It is very difficult if not impossible to enjoy your life when you are feeling angry. No everyone understands where anger comes from or how to get rid of it. The first thing to do when dealing with anger is to have some understanding of why you are feeling this emotion. Following are some things to ponder. Are you angry because:   Somebody you trusted hurt you? Unfortunately, other people can deliberately or deliberately cause physical and or emotional harm. This can have long-term effects, especially if you just push it down and don't deal with it. A stranger scammed...

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Turning Point

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Turning Point

There in times in life when significant changes occur and not everyone can figure out why that happened. Following are some of the reasons why people change:   They "hit bottom" - This low is different for each person. No matter how dysfunctional their choices might appear to others, people do not change until life doesn't work for them anymore! When they get to the point that they can't stand the why things are going, they consider going another direction. They receive information that gives them good options that they didn't have previously. Someone might have had a dream to...

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Distractions Can Hamper Progress

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Distractions Can Hamper Progress

In what my grandchildren call "the olden days" people used to put blinders on their horses. These were firm leather squares that attached to the bridle or hood. Some blinders were plastic cups, but they all had the same purpose. When pulling wagons or carriages it was important for the horse to look forward and not be distracted or panicked by things behind or beside them. We live in an extremely busy world where twenty-four-hour media can capture our attention to the point that we do not make progress on personal goals. Movies, news flashes and "how to" programs can...

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State and Growth

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State and Growth

Near the beginning of each year, politicians usually present a speech that summarizes what s/he believes is extremely important about the state of the constituency they represent. Topics that are usually addressed in that speech include:   Team players - The people who have had significant roles are usually introduced and congratulated for the time, effort and wisdom that they have invested. Values - Communities and groups are usually bonded together by shared values. Desire for safety, growth, freedom and opportunity can become strong motivators during the decision-making process and actions that are taken. Progress and achievements - There is...

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Common Sense - Important for Health and Life

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Common Sense - Important for Health and Life

Over the years people have told me that they appreciate the fact I have common sense as though it is some kind of a rare attribute. Unfortunately, common sense isn't very common, and it certainly doesn't make sense to everyone. Common sense:   Focusses on the reality of everyday matters and not on wishful thinking or unrealistic dreams. It sees life as it is but knows that it can improve with good choices. Requires time for research and a clear understanding of the everything involved. There is an old adage that states "If it seems too good to be true,...

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Delayed Gratification - Waiting for the Reward

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Delayed Gratification - Waiting for the Reward

We live in a world where everything is designed to give instant results. Drive-throughs, pre-packaged food and microwaves allow us to eat in minutes without having to invest time and energy into preparation or to wait for regular cooking times. The internet provides us with information that we might otherwise have had to research in a library or gain from interviewing an expert. We don't even have to dial full telephone numbers to reach friends or family because of speed dial. Everything is designed so that we get what we want instantly, and credit cards challenge us to "buy now...

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One Step At a Time - Making Change

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One Step At a Time - Making Change

Years ago, I attended a seminar where Zig Ziglar was the main speaker. I remember his session on goal setting when he talked about how his doctor told him that he had to lose weight. Zig stated that the first day he was only able to run to the mailbox. The next day he ran past the mailbox to the nearest telephone pole. And so, his program continued until he was actually running five miles a day. His weight was dropping significantly, and his health was improving. Many people make the mistake of going to a gym or over-exercising to...

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Ideas That Don't Work Well

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Ideas That Don't Work Well

Sometimes we delude ourselves into thinking that our ideas will lead to happiness and success. There is a popular expression that states, "Insanity is when you do the same things over and over again expecting a different result". If you want different results, you need to do things differently and that begins with thinking differently. Here are some of the concepts that might be holding you back from feeling and doing better:   People will change because they love me - The sad news is that people do not change until life doesn't work for them anymore. It is not...

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How to Succeed In Life and the New Year

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How to Succeed In Life and the New Year

I have seen more than 8,000 clients over the years that I have been in Medicine Hat. The other day I was thinking about what I would tell every single one of them if I was only allowed one nugget of wisdom to share. After a few minutes of deep thought, I decided that the best advice that I could give anyone is for them to focus on the right things. It is very easy to become distracted by world events and disasters, relationship drama, financial stress, career challenges or addictions. There are also some very simple practices that, if...

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Create Christmas Spirit

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Create Christmas Spirit

I have learned so much from my family, friends and clients over the years. Many of them have had very good reasons to feel sorry for themselves or bemoan their negative circumstances. Instead, they reached out to others who needed help. Much better than sitting at home, staring at a wall and pouting! We all know the expression "It is better to give than receive" but many either don't practice this or miss out on needs that we have right in our own neighbourhood. One of the things that I have been encouraging people to do this Christmas is to...

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A Movie Christmas

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A Movie Christmas

With all of the available technology today, it is very easy to binge on watching Christmas movies. In fact, some channels are bragging about how many new Christmas movies that they will air this year. It doesn't take long to realize that the template for each is basically the same. 1. Unhappiness - Most of the movies start with characters who are overworked, lonely or experiencing a need that hasn't been filled. Sometimes children seek a parent who has died or left them. Often a romantic relationship breakup has just occurred. Trauma of the past might be the cause for...

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Why Christmas?

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Why Christmas?

So there are only a few sleeps to go until December 25th. Many of us have areas in our homes that are infiltrated with shiny packages holding large-screen televisions, new clothing and books that we will be giving to others. One last grocery shopping trip will secure the ingredients for the extensive menu that could feed twice as many guests as we expect. We are exhausted from all the Christmas parties, concerts and extras. The car is fueled for travel that leads to the second or third Christmas feast of the season. Everywhere we turn there are decorated venues and...

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Are You Truly Free?

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Are You Truly Free?

The Oxford Living Dictionary defines freedom as: "The state of not being imprisoned or enslaved". As we near Remembrance Day we often think about military members who risked their own lives with threats of being imprisoned, enslaved or worse so that we could experience freedom from foreign domination or despotic governments. Most return from their tour of duty with haunting memories of what they saw and did. Many have physical problems that are service-related. All of them realize that they have precious missed time with family and friends as well as the "normalcy" of life at home. It is sad...

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Retreat, Regroup, Ready

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Retreat, Regroup, Ready

Do you ever get tired of hearing people tell you how busy they are? Often, they declare this along with the idea that they are feeling overwhelmed. Well, busyness and overwhelm can be altered. I know that I won't be at my best unless I make and follow through with specific plans. When I am feeling too busy, I need to step back and put in boundaries. When I feel overwhelmed, I need to examine my situation and make deliberate changes. Here are three ways that you can improve your life and enjoy peace rather than chaos: 1. RETREAT -...

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Quest for Connection

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Quest for Connection

It was 1969! Prime Minister Trudeau was our leader. Singer/songwriter Gordon Lightfoot was topping the charts and Neil Armstrong was the first man to walk on the moon. Free spirits gathered at Woodstock where they smoked marijuana. A White Paper was written to try to correct wrongs done in the past to First Nations people. It was a busy year even in southern Saskatchewan where sixty-six individuals, one of the largest classes ever, graduated from Indian Head High School. The graduating class consisted of a varied group of individuals, ranging from sixteen years to twenty-one years of age. Some had...

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Getting Stuck in Life

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Getting Stuck in Life

Corb Lund is a western and country singer/songwriter from Alberta. In 2005 he released an album with his song "Truck Got Stuck". Can't help it, I just smile every time I hear it. There are so many lessons in the song lyrics which are apparently based on a true story. 1. People view things differently and perspectives change. Farmers and ranchers who live in southern Alberta usually welcome rain especially after a dry spell. Timing is important, however, and if you are planning an outdoor event, you might not like the timing. Too much rain also can alter attitudes from...

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