Articles — Home and Family

Helping a Child To Do Well

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting

Helping a Child To Do Well

Well, it's time for a new school term. Most parents and grandparents think that it is up to a child to do well in class and on their report cards. They often don't recognize, however, how their own actions contribute to the child's progress. Here are some things that you can do to help your child succeed: 1. Encourage and praise effort - I remember hearing about a research project where children were given puzzles beyond their abilities. Some of the children were excited and asked if the researchers would give their mothers the name of the manufacturer so that...

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Heritage Day

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Heritage Day

I must be getting old! When I am in a room full of individuals who don't know what I mean when I say telephone party-line, I Love Lucy, or outhouse then I am reminded of the fact that I have been around for a while. This spring my thirteen year old grandson Jordan was doing a school project on immigration and because my grandfather came to Canada as an eleven-year-old orphan he phoned me for help. I was surprised at how many concepts I had to explain and/or spell for him because he just didn't understand. Try explaining what stooking grain,...

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Labour Day - Yesterday and Today

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Labour Day - Yesterday and Today

Each year we celebrate Labour Day in a number of countries. For most of us, it is merely a long weekend that signals the end of the summer season. Its roots, however, were ones that involved struggle. In Toronto in the mid eighteen hundreds there was a new industrialized economy where machines began to replace employees. Workers lost their power and therefore faced long working hours, poor benefits and deplorable working conditions. This situation led to a need for solidarity by the workers. They began staging protests and parades that were attended by crowds of up to 10,000 supporters.Over time,...

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Mother's Day - A Difficult Role

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Mother's Day - A Difficult Role

One of the most difficult roles that I have ever had is to be a parent. Oh, don't think that I didn't or don't enjoy it. Parenting has brought me some of the most rewarding and rich experiences of my life. It is a lot easier, however, to not have any children and then just give advice to those who do. Or to be a grandparent where you can be viewed as a "hero" for investing a little time and uniqueness into the life of a wide-eyed child. You can have great fun and send that child home before you...

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Proud Canadians

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Proud Canadians

It's easy to complain. Yes, we have a very young Prime Minister who is bound to make mistakes. Most of them do at times. But he's enthusiastic and after all we did vote him in. Or were you one of the citizens who didn't bother to go to the polls? Our economy isn't necessarily where we want it to be but there are jobs available. Perhaps they don't match your career or income goals. Maybe you should consider the educational opportunities we have at our doorstep or through the internet. Can't afford it? There are grants, bursaries and Student Loans...

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Parenting Problems?

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting

Parenting Problems?

I definitely do not blame parents for all the problems that they have with their children but, at the same time, realize that there are strategies parents could use to make the job easier. Unfortunately, in our society, we don't usually offer parenting courses until the problems have already begun. Here are a few things to consider: 1. It is not your job to keep your child happy - Often I see parents buying or doing things because they love to be a "hero" and see their child smile. Consider the reasons why you are indulging them? If your child...

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Roses Are Red

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Roses Are Red

As February 14th approaches, we notice that the malls and stores are decorated with red hearts and chubby cherubs. Consumers are encouraged to purchase boxes of candy or bouquets of roses for their lovers. School children prepare cards to send to their friends. Some organizations arrange fancy teas or bake sales to celebrate the occasion. It seems that love is in the air! Not everyone, however, has the same reaction to Valentine's Day. In fact, that are several different ways that you can spend the day: 1. With thankfulness - Do you have someone special in your life with whom...

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Victory Remembered

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Victory Remembered

The idea began in England in the mind of a scientist named Geoffrey Pyke. He envisioned a small, elite and well-trained commando unit that would be able to fight behind enemy lines in winter conditions. It was 1942 when the United States and Canada accepted the challenge to form, train and command the First Special Services Force (FSSF) which was later nicknamed the "Black Devils". Robert T. Frederick, a young officer who had doubts about the feasibility of being able to create the required special military force was put in charge of the group. His example of never asking any...

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Christmas Resolutions - No Regrets This Year

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Christmas Resolutions - No Regrets This Year

After all of the glitter and excitement is over do you ever have regrets? Do you promise yourself that next year will be different? Well, before we get too far into December, let's think about how you can prevent that from happening again: 1. I spent too much - Set up a realistic budget and make a firm commitment to stick with it. Make a list of everyone you will buy gifts for and the amount that you will spend. Keep your emotions at bay. The newborn really doesn't care if you even buy a gift so keep that in...

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The Christmas Story Is All Around Us

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

The Christmas Story Is All Around Us

Ancient scriptures relay the details of the birth of the baby Jesus. It seems so strange to think about how more than two thousand later we still talk about the humble beginnings that led to continued celebrations on December 25 of each year. Though things have changed over time, many things remain the same. We are all still required to pay taxes. The internet and mail system alleviate the need for us to travel in order to do that, however the government still very much informs us of when to pay and how much we owe. Joseph and Mary were...

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Your Child Has a Problem

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting

Your Child Has a Problem

As a psychologist it is my job to help figure out the differences between can or can't and will or won't. Some parents might be worried about their children now that they have been in class for the past few weeks. Others will probably be shocked when they receive the first report card of the year. Maybe you haven't been paying enough attention or maybe your child has been conning you into believing that things are good. It may be a parenting problem: Why is your child late, missing or not prepared to learn? Perhaps they have not been doing...

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God Keep Our Land

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

God Keep Our Land

Since childhood, I have been advised that it is safer to stay away from discussing politics or religion. There is therefore some risk in writing this one for Canada Day. When I grew up we began each school day with prayer. On the weekend we attended Sunday School and church. Mid-week activities were usually scheduled at or involving groups at the church. In our small Saskatchewan town everyone knew each other and we understood that some people were Catholic, some Protestant and others not interested in religion. We just accepted that! At the same time, we knew that we would...

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A Day Off!

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

A Day Off!

May 24th was the date that Queen Victoria of England was born. On her thirty-fifth birthday, in 1854, legislation was passed to celebrate her birthday in Canada. That year, over 5,000 gathered on May 24th in Toronto to "give cheers to their queen". It wasn't until after the death of Queen Victoria, who was deemed to be the "Mother of Confederation" that a law was made to remember and honour her every year on May 24th. In Canada we celebrate Victoria Day on the Monday preceding May 25th regardless of the actual date. This a federal statutory holiday but the...

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A New Princess

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

A New Princess

The eyes of the world have been focused on England since the fall of 2014 when Prince William and Kate Middleton announced that they were expecting their second child. Over the past few days, a lot of money has changed hands as people have speculated and wagered on the gender of the unborn child and then, once the girl was born, what name she would be given. Those who chose Charlotte won! You might not know that there were actually two sisters born in 1822 and 1833 who also held the title of Princess of Cambridge. Princess Charlotte therefore is...

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Leave the Past Behind

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Leave the Past Behind

It is always very tempting at the beginning of a new year to think that you can just ignore the past and start over. But life is not like the Christmas decorations that you can just put away and forget about for several months. There are things that need to be dealt with and resolved in order to move on with life in a healthy manner. Perhaps you have a secret that you have been harboring. You likely live in the fear that someone will find out about it. What a horrible situation - always having to look over your...

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Christmas: How Is It Supposed to Be?

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Christmas: How Is It Supposed to Be?

Dr. Jenn Berman is a psychotherapist who has a radio show that I listen to at times. Recently she put a posting on her Facebook page that states: "What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it is supposed to be." So many live by "should", "have to," and "must" ideas. These, however, form the bars of our own cages and we are trapped by them. As we enter into December it is especially important to consider the above quote. How do you think Christmas "is supposed to be?" Do you think that...

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Christmas: Miracles

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Christmas: Miracles

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the word "miracle" as: "an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs." We use the word miracle in a number of ways. Sometimes individuals who have been extremely ill suddenly get better without any explanation that can be identified or named. The change in their health occurs so rapidly that everyone is pleased but, at the same time, shocked. A miracle! Researchers often invest years of their lives trying to find a cure for diseases or an immunization to prevent plagues. And then, all of a sudden, they figure it out and the discovery seems...

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Boxing Day and Tradition

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Boxing Day and Tradition

There isn't any consensus about the origins of the secular holiday that occurs on December 26th. As far back as the Middle Ages, people have been concerned about caring for the poor and the practice then was to place an Alms box inside the church to collect donations for them. Some believe that the name Boxing Day was tied to the idea of the Alms box. In Roman times and at the beginning of the Christian era, metal boxes were placed outside of churches to collect special offerings for the Feast of St. Steven which is also recognized on December...

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True Peace

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

True Peace

Every year I write an article for Canada's Remembrance Day which is on November 11th. This time I thought I would write a poem instead: Remembrance Day: a time when weRecall how others fought.Gave up their homes, their health, their livesSo freedom could be bought.(Because we all want peace.) We send our troops to foreign landsAnd hope they'll stop new fightsOr overthrow dictatorshipsSecuring people's rights.(Because we all want peace.) Disasters come and people needSupport in many ways.We send the solders, food and medsTo help them through this phase.(Because we all want peace.) We volunteer for charityAnd give our money tooWith...

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Ten Important Things To Teach Your Teen

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting

Ten Important Things To Teach Your Teen

The word graduation is usually defined as the receiving or conferring of an academic degree or diploma. Most of us, however, use the term to refer to times in life when we have completed something of which we can be proud. Often a child graduates, leaves home and continues life in another location. As a parent, there are things that you can teach them before that day comes to help them throughout the rest of their lives. Be sure they know how to:   Greet people respectfully - I have never heard anyone complain when they are greeted by someone who...

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The Easter Lily

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

The Easter Lily

In 1777 an explorer named Carl Peter Thunberg discovered the Lillium longiflorum which is native to the Ryukyu islands but the plant that we now call the Easter Lily did not arrive in England until 1819. Until the 1940s North America imported the bulbs from these islands near Japan. Then the bombing of Pearl Harbour occurred and because the supply stopped, both bulbs and plants became very valuable. Louis Houghton who was a soldier in the war brought a suitcase full of lily bulbs to North America for his friends and that is how the area along the Oregon-California border...

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10 Unique Christmas Shopping Ideas

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

10 Unique Christmas Shopping Ideas

It's the time of year when you are likely scrambling to finish your preparations for the Christmas celebrations. Following are some ideas that might help you to finish off the gift-giving list.   Renew a Membership - Ask the person who you are buying for if you can help support their special interest. Perhaps they belong to a club or organization that has yearly membership fees that you could pay as your gift to them. Plan an outing - Most people would enjoy spending time with you rather than receiving a gift. Think about a creative way that you can enjoy the...

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Making A Difference In the World

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Making A Difference In the World

Every major religion in the world has some form of the Golden Rule or implies that we are responsible for each other. No one seems to demonstrate that better than the new Roman Catholic Pope Francis. Since he was elected to this position, he has broken many of the rules that were observed by his predecessors. For example, he does not live in the papal residence but instead stays in a guest house and eats his meals with staff and guests, visiting freely with them. He rides in elevators with others and rather than using the luxury transportation that is...

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The Happiness Formula

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

The Happiness Formula

Often clients come to see me and state "I want to be happy. How can I do that?" My first response is "First you have to make a decision that you will be happy. It is so much easier to reach a goal if you first decide with conviction that you will succeed. The second step is to focus on the things for which you can be thankful rather than focusing on all the troubles and problems in your life and in the world. I was watching a television special with Deepak Chopra last weekend and was very surprised when...

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Don't Forget To Remember

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family

Don't Forget To Remember

Often I hear people complain about not being able to remember the way that they expect they should. They seem frustrated, embarrassed and angry about the fact that they forget the things that they think should be automatic or simple to hold onto. For example, walking from one room to another in order to get something and then arriving there only to realize that they cannot remember what they were getting. Or, for the first time, forgetting the birthday of a loved one. Or not being able to remember their own telephone number, middle name or address. The more anxious...

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