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The Unexpected

Justin Walter 17. The Seventeenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More New Articles

Yesterday was busy!   There were appointments and tasks that took me away from home for several hours.  When I returned, I was hungry and tired.  I had just finished eating and crawled into bed to watch a video when suddenly, the electricity went off!   Everything!   The video froze on my laptop and the only other faint light was coming from my iPhone. I was surprised at how dark my world looked. As I waited for what I was sure would only be a few minutes before the electricity would be restored I thought about my childhood.  We would often have...

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The Simple Life

Justin Walter 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles Travel and Leisure

Several years ago, I became a member of a family tree software program.  I was surprised to learn that in the mid-1700s some of my ancestors lived in Pennsylvania and appeared to have Amish roots.  As a child I had heard family talk about my maternal grandfather being Pennsylvania Dutch but, at the time, didn’t connect this with the Amish.  So, a few years ago I decided to visit Bird In Hand, Pennsylvania to learn about the people.   What an interesting experience. Since my trip I have been fascinated with the Amish ways.  Don’t get me wrong – I won’t...

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Transition

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More New Articles

The other day my daughter said “You don’t transition very well”.  This wasn’t a criticism.  It was a fact. You see from April 28th when I received the first text message from my grandson asking me to move to Westman Village until July 28th when I physically moved to Calgary, I have been bombarded with decisions, change and adjustment. It was one thing to get in a vehicle and drive to the new condo and quite another to get settled.   Notifying everyone of change of addresses and having documentation updated was a huge undertaking.  There was legal paperwork for the...

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Let's Sing Along!

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

Ever since I was a small child, I have loved music!  My dad had a beautiful bass voice and sang not only in the church choir and the barbershop chorus but also in the car and around home.  We always knew he was in the area because we could hear his cheery whistling as he came up the walk or worked in the yard.

Dad came from a family who loved music.  Most of us played the piano and there was never a family gathering when we didn’t end the evening with a good old fashioned singsong.  And each song usually ended in laugher.   Such good fun!

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Navigating the Journey

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

One of the things that I was NOT looking forward to during my move to Calgary was driving in the big city.   You see, Medicine Hat spoiled me by the fact that I could go pretty well anywhere in ten minutes without facing several lanes of speeding traffic. So, after a couple of days in my new condo I was invited for an evening at the home of my daughter in Okotoks.  Could I manage that?   It might seem like a very trivial concern to the seasoned Calgarian but for me, it was a serious adventure. There were several things...

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Life's Surprises

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

When I moved to Medicine Hat twenty-five years ago, I had no idea that I would love this city so much.   Over the years, I have been able to build good relationships with wonderful people and build a business.   My first two residential purchases ever were made here.   How I have loved the view of the river from my condo and the fact that I could travel to pretty much any destination in ten minutes.  I usually describe Medicine Hat to others as “It’s just a big town”. I never ever considered that I would leave Medicine Hat, but sometimes...

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Indoctrinate, Condition or Brainwash?

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

I remember hearing a story about a woman who went to the butcher to buy meat.   She asked him for a ten-pound roast but added that she wanted a couple of inches to be cut off one end.   When the butcher questioned her about why she wanted this, she replied “I don’t know.  That’s what my mother always asked for”.   Curiosity drove her to ask her mother about why she ordered meat like this.   The mother replied “I don’t know.  That’s just what my mother did”.   Finally, the two went to grandma to ask why she would order a ten-pound...

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Memories

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock Self Improvement Self Improvement_Organizing

Recently I noticed a huge, heavy box on a high shelf in my storage room.   Because it wasn’t labelled I had absolutely no idea what was in it.  How shocked I was once it was at ground level to realize what was inside. There were several hundred greeting cards.   Some were from various birthdays and graduations that I had over the years.    Many were sympathy cards that had arrived after the death of my mother.   A leather pouch that was embossed with “Important Documents” contained wills and insurance policies from my dad who died in 1979.   There were newspaper clippings,...

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A Challenge

Dr. Linda Hancock 15. The Fifteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

I always try things that I recommend for my clients to make sure that they are reasonable and achievable. Over the years, when clients have indicated that they are struggling financially I ask them “How much do you spend on groceries in a month?” Then “How much do you spend eating out or ordering in>?” Finally I query “If all the stores were closed and you couldn’t purchase anything there, how long could you go just by eating what you have in your house right now?” Often the replies are interesting. I hear things like: “But I wouldn’t have fresh...

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It Only Takes Two to Get Married

Dr. Linda Hancock 15. The Fifteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

My mom and dad were married on July 4, 1951. That morning mom went shopping for blue shoes to match her wedding dress. She knew that stores in Regina closed at noon on Wednesdays back then, but she needed the shoes as the ceremony was scheduled for one o’clock that day. The store didn’t have her size, so she purchased ones that were the right colour but too big for her feet! Before the ceremony, my dad, who had great sense of humour told mom, “If I had known how much the flowers were going to cost, I would have...

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It Feels Like the 1950s

Dr. Linda Hancock 15. The Fifteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock News and Society News and Society_World Pandemic

The pandemic that we have been experiencing has caused so many changes in our lives. I was thinking the other day that a lot of what we are doing reminds me of growing up in the 1950s:   Travel - I remember when, in grade eleven, my parents decided that it would be important for our family to go on our first major trip. We drove to British Columbia where we stayed with a family friend in his cabin on Vancouver Island. We spent a day at Stanley Park. You see, we didn't have a lot of money or opportunities...

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Where Is Your Home?

Dr. Linda Hancock 14. The Fourteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

The Merriam-Webster dictionary has several different definitions for the word "home". One states that it is a place of residence. Another defines it as a familiar or usual setting or congenial environment and a third states that it is a place of origin. The dictionary goes on to define the term "at home" which includes being relaxed and comfortable, in harmony with the surroundings and on familiar ground. I think we all recognize the fact that a home is more than just a building, but individuals may conger up very different meanings when they hear or use the term "home"....

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Pretend You Live Alone

Dr. Linda Hancock 14. The Fourteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

So often I hear family members complain about how others make a mess and are not willing to help with the cleanup. They want things done a certain way at a certain time and feel upset, blaming everyone else who lives in the house for this mood. When they come to me as clients, they believe that I have magic powers that will instantly change everyone but don't expect what I have to say about their dilemma. I frequently see looks of surprise when I tell them that I live alone and therefore don't have anyone to blame when the...

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Inter-Generational Fun

Dr. Linda Hancock 13. The Thirteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More stock

INTER-GENERATIONAL FUN! I had such a wonderful long weekend! My grandson, Justin, who is nineteen years of age, called and asked if he could come for a visit. He had recently been promoted at work to a management position and got a raise, so he was financially able and excited to make the trip from Saskatoon to Medicine Hat. I believe it was the first fairly major adventure that he planned and undertaken all by himself! Justin had been living with his dad but recently decided to move in with a couple of friends. That was when he first realized...

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Royal and Non-Royal Similarities

Dr. Linda Hancock 13. The Thirteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

When we think about the royal family, our minds automatically include castles, riches and pageantry. What we forget about, however, is the fact that all families have things in common and, like us, the royals are not excluded from problems. Queen Elizabeth has been admired for several reasons. One is that she has been on the throne for sixty-six years and has committed to serving for her entire life. A second is that she does not air any of her relatives "dirty linen". In fact, she has never allowed a media interview and does not talk publicly about her personal...

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The Family Orange

Dr. Linda Hancock 12. The Twelfth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

I love looking at the fresh produce at the grocery store. Often I have been enticed by large, beautiful oranges and then am disappointed to find that what I have purchased is mostly peel! You can't eat the peel but it does serve to protect the fruit that lives inside of it. Sometimes it is juicy and nutritious. Sometimes it is small or rotten. Families can be like oranges. Each of us was raised in an environment surrounded by boundaries or peels that separate us from the world. Often, the thicker the peel, the more dysfunction in the family unit....

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I'm Heading to England

Dr. Linda Hancock 09. The Ninth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

When you read this article, I will be on the first day of my big trip to the United Kingdom. In 1886 my paternal grandfather was born in Hammersmith to a single mother. England was troubled economically and socially at the time. Jack the Ripper and the plague threatened its population. It was what Charles Dickens called "The best of times and the worst of times". His works entitled "Oliver Twist" and "David Copperfield" painted the picture of how difficult life was for everyone back then - but especially for the children. Many individuals rose up in England to help...

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Serendipity: Creating a Gift and Leaving a Legacy

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

I wasn't sure what to give my only nephew for a wedding gift. You see, he and his fiancé were well established, and their house had everything they needed. Then I got an idea. What about getting an electronic photo frame with scanned photos of his life and family throughout the years? We could even add music to it. When my mother died, I was left with several boxes of pictures and it was always my plan to go through and sort them but until this summer that had never happened. Because the school term was over, I thought that...

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Where Are You From?

Dr. Linda Hancock 07. The Seventh Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

Since I was a young child, I have enjoyed hearing stories from friends and relatives about our ancestors and the experiences that they had. My maternal grandmother would say "I am going to tell you, Linda, because someone has to remember" and then would go into great detail about the people and events that were long-gone but stored in her memory. She would also have me repeat words to the Lord's Prayer in Norwegian, line by line until I had the proper pronunciation. It was obvious that she believed she had a legacy of stories to pass on to me...

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Your Memories Are Your Legacy

Dr. Linda Hancock 07. The Seventh Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

This year I decided that it was time to bring some order to the family information that I have and to use it to build a legacy for my descendants. Even though I bought a membership to a wonderful software program, it has been kind of like trying to put together a 100,000 piece puzzle. You see, I have the family lineage for four grandparents traced back to the 1600s. Now you might not have any desire to invest your time and energy to this extent. You need to remember, though, that the information and memories you have will likely...

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How to Stop Morning Sickness When Pregnant

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

Morning sickness is horrible! I remember going through it and wondering if I would even survive. The good news is that only about half of women experience this and it usually only lasts from about the sixth week of pregnancy to the third or fourth month. It is hard to treat something unless you know the cause and unfortunately no one has figured out exactly what that would be. Some believe that hormonal changes or imbalance of blood sugar are the culprits. Each person is complex and unique so it is therefore important that you study your situation and determine...

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Things You Wish That Your In-Laws Understood

Dr. Linda Hancock 06. The Sixth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

Often I hear horror stories from my clients about the problems and arguing that happens when in-laws do not respect boundaries of their adult child and his/her family. In fact, many couples claim that the biggest fights occur with or about the in-laws. Most of them wish that their in-laws understood the following: 1. The adult child has a family and a home that does not belong to the family of origin. When the child leaves and establishes his/her own home, the parents need to recognize that this is not merely an extension of their own property and show respect just...

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Tips for Keeping Your House Clean and Organized Without Much Effort

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

I have heard a number of my younger clients talk about how overwhelming it is to do housework. Most of them tell me that they have one day a week when all the family members spend the day cleaning. I found this kind of hard to understand until I realized that most of them let everything go for several days and then face an almost overwhelming situation. Following are some tips for keeping your house clean and organized without much effort: 1. Do not walk anywhere around the house or yard with empty hands. If you are going to the...

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Three Things You Should Do If Your Teen Runs Away from Home

Dr. Linda Hancock 06. The Sixth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

Often clients come to see me in a state of crisis. They are afraid, embarrassed and worried because their teenager has run away from home. More than anything, they are desperate to get them back but don't know how to do that. Before you go frantically racing out and kidnapping them, consider the following: 1. Find the child and tell him/her that you love and want them to be safe. Offer to drive them to a shelter or connect them with a community resource. Recognize that if the child was upset enough to run away, there must be something seriously...

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Three Things You Should Do If Your Teen Runs Away From Home

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock

Often clients come to see me in a state of crisis. They are afraid, embarrassed and worried because their teenager has run away from home. More than anything, they are desperate to get them back but don't know how to do that. Before you go frantically racing out and kidnapping them, consider the following:1. Find the child and tell him/her that you love and want them to be safe. Offer to drive them to a shelter or connect them with a community resource. Recognize that if the child was upset enough to run away, there must be something seriously wrong....

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