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The Unexpected

Justin Walter 17. The Seventeenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More New Articles

Yesterday was busy!   There were appointments and tasks that took me away from home for several hours.  When I returned, I was hungry and tired.  I had just finished eating and crawled into bed to watch a video when suddenly, the electricity went off!   Everything!   The video froze on my laptop and the only other faint light was coming from my iPhone. I was surprised at how dark my world looked. As I waited for what I was sure would only be a few minutes before the electricity would be restored I thought about my childhood.  We would often have...

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Get Your House in Order

Justin Walter 17. The Seventeenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_New Years iStock New Articles

Have you ever heard the expression “get your house in order” and wondered what that means?  Well, there are several things that are involved in achieving this.  Firstly, it means that you make sure that your affairs are arranged properly.  It also means that you have dealt with problems appropriately. The third part is to ensure that these things are completed before you even consider thinking about or criticizing others. So, as you know, I believe in breaking tasks down into small steps and watching goals being achieved over time.  Because of this, I have laid out twelve areas in...

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A New Beginning

Justin Walter 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_New Years iStock New Articles

Bryan Stevenson graduated from Harvard, and, despite his mother’s concerns, he decided to work in Arkansas with prisoners on death row. His story is chronicled in the book “Just Mercy” which he authored and the movie by the same name. The movie states: “For every 9 people who have been executed in the U.S.one person who has been on death row has been proven innocent and released – a shocking rate of error”. As we stand on the threshold of a new year, many of us hope for new beginnings.   Some are burdened by mistakes made in the past.   You...

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Gifts

Justin Walter 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Christmas iStock New Articles

Is there a particular gift that you have secretly been wanting This year, more than ever, I have been hearing people talk about how difficult it is to buy gifts for loved ones.   Some say that they don’t know what the other person might want or need.  The size, colour or style is usually a matter of personal preference and often we don’t know these details.  Also, we might not know what the person already has or will be receiving from others. Over the years I have given gifts that were met with comments such as “I just bought myself...

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Christmas Choices

Justin Walter 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Christmas iStock New Articles

I have fond memories of Christmas when I was a child.  Besides the concerts and thoughts of school break we had the expectations of what would happen in the upcoming days. On Christmas Eve, my mom, dad, sister and I would stay home and have a nice meal followed by opening of the gifts.  I don’t know if this was primarily because of our maternal Scandinavian roots, lack of patience, or anticipation of a very busy Christmas day but we always loved to not have to wait until the twenty-fifth for the presents.  Then we would go across the street...

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What Price?

Justin Walter 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Remembrance Day iStock New Articles

November is a special time for me as it focusses my thoughts on remembrance and the price of freedom that was paid for me.   Even though I was born after World War II, I was strongly impacted by the stories that my mother told me about sacrifices everyone made during the war years.  We sometimes forget that the fighting lasted for almost six years! Young men joined ranks and left their homes for unknown locations and secrecy.  Their training involved doing things that would help them in battle but haunt them afterwards.  They were conditioned to sleep lightly, respond with...

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The Simple Life

Justin Walter 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles Travel and Leisure

Several years ago, I became a member of a family tree software program.  I was surprised to learn that in the mid-1700s some of my ancestors lived in Pennsylvania and appeared to have Amish roots.  As a child I had heard family talk about my maternal grandfather being Pennsylvania Dutch but, at the time, didn’t connect this with the Amish.  So, a few years ago I decided to visit Bird In Hand, Pennsylvania to learn about the people.   What an interesting experience. Since my trip I have been fascinated with the Amish ways.  Don’t get me wrong – I won’t...

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Grief and Loss

Justin Walter Home and Family Home and Family_Death Dying Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Thanksgiving iStock New Articles

Throughout life we experience many losses which cause mental suffering.  Some involve death while others involve significant losses such as relationships, jobs or even material things.  Many believe that the most difficult to face is the loss of a dream.  When a child dies, for example, the parents lose their dream of seeing that child graduate, marry and grow. Because of the drastic changes that have accompanied the pandemic I thought it would be important to review the stages of grief and loss.   These were outlined in a book written by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross who watched people and their...

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Transition

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More New Articles

The other day my daughter said “You don’t transition very well”.  This wasn’t a criticism.  It was a fact. You see from April 28th when I received the first text message from my grandson asking me to move to Westman Village until July 28th when I physically moved to Calgary, I have been bombarded with decisions, change and adjustment. It was one thing to get in a vehicle and drive to the new condo and quite another to get settled.   Notifying everyone of change of addresses and having documentation updated was a huge undertaking.  There was legal paperwork for the...

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Let's Sing Along!

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

Ever since I was a small child, I have loved music!  My dad had a beautiful bass voice and sang not only in the church choir and the barbershop chorus but also in the car and around home.  We always knew he was in the area because we could hear his cheery whistling as he came up the walk or worked in the yard.

Dad came from a family who loved music.  Most of us played the piano and there was never a family gathering when we didn’t end the evening with a good old fashioned singsong.  And each song usually ended in laugher.   Such good fun!

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Navigating the Journey

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

One of the things that I was NOT looking forward to during my move to Calgary was driving in the big city.   You see, Medicine Hat spoiled me by the fact that I could go pretty well anywhere in ten minutes without facing several lanes of speeding traffic. So, after a couple of days in my new condo I was invited for an evening at the home of my daughter in Okotoks.  Could I manage that?   It might seem like a very trivial concern to the seasoned Calgarian but for me, it was a serious adventure. There were several things...

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Life's Surprises

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

When I moved to Medicine Hat twenty-five years ago, I had no idea that I would love this city so much.   Over the years, I have been able to build good relationships with wonderful people and build a business.   My first two residential purchases ever were made here.   How I have loved the view of the river from my condo and the fact that I could travel to pretty much any destination in ten minutes.  I usually describe Medicine Hat to others as “It’s just a big town”. I never ever considered that I would leave Medicine Hat, but sometimes...

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One Country

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Canada Day iStock New Articles

I have learned that no matter where we go in the world, Canadians are welcomed.   We have a good reputation of being kind, honest, and peace-loving.   In fact, there is a silly joke about how Canadians are so nice that we apologize even when it isn’t our fault! Unfortunately, I have noticed that the pandemic has created fear and confusion which frequently threatens our unity.  Family members are upset with each other when they don’t share the same opinions.   People out in the public are being stared at or shouted down by complete strangers.  Even our leaders and health officials...

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May Long Weekend

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Victoria Day New Articles News and Society News and Society_World Pandemic

Well, we are in pandemic lockdown again but that doesn’t change the dates on the calendar.   No matter what happens, one of the favourite holidays, May long weekend with soon be here. Many people look forward to this date for a number of reasons.   Which one would apply to you?” CAMPING – When the weather is nice it is fun to head for a vacation spot with family and gear.   Perhaps a boat, kayak or bikes will add fun to the few days away from home.   And of course, there will be barbecue foods and marshmallows to roast. ROYAL FAMILY...

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Mother's Day

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Mothers Day iStock New Articles

When I was a child we would wear an artificial carnation to church on Mother’s Day.  Red or pink meant that one’s mother was alive whereas white indicated that the person’s mother had passed.  Since then, I have been thinking about how many different kinds of mothers we recognize in society: Birth mother – The woman who conceived and gave birth to you. Adoptive mother – The person who legally or formally took on the caregiving responsibilities for you. Social mother – A woman who informally took on the role of a parent by your choice, by hers or by...

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Honouring Mothers

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Mothers Day iStock New Articles

The first time that Mother’s Day was officially celebrated was on May 10, 1908 at St. Andrew’s Methodist Church in Grafton, West Virgina, USA.   The originator who established it was Anna Jarvis who had admired the work of her own mother and, after her death wanted to make a special tribute to her.  During the service she distributed 500 carnations to women in the church as this had been the favourite flower of her mother.  In 1912 Anna trademarked the phrases “Second Sunday in May” “Mother’s Day”.   That year she also created the Mother’s Day International Association. President Woodrow Wilson...

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Finally Spring

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Easter iStock New Articles

The past few weeks I have taken great joy in the fact that I can open my bedroom window and patio door!  There’s nothing like the wonderful breeze that floats into my condo bringing with it the change of seasons.   I hear the chirping of baby birds and the sound of boats attempting their first journey on the river.  The soft voices and laughter of individuals who are out for a walk float into the room. Someone is creating an amazing smell on their barbecue and I try to guess who the chef is and what is the menu....

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What do you Believe?

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Easter iStock New Articles

Well, we are entering Easter week – a time when Christians throughout the world celebrate!   But there are many different perspectives and practices for those who claim to be Christian. Here are some of versions that I have heard when individuals were asked if there is a God in their life: Absolutely not! Some people believe that all we have is today and there is no afterlife.   Responsibility for one’s success and failures therefore lie within each person who makes choices and then, when it is time to die, they just go to sleep. I have the denomination of my...

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Spring Fling

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Easter iStock New Articles

  In 1933 Irving Berlin wrote and published the song “Easter Parade”.   Fifteen years later Judy Garland starred in a movie of the same name.   The themes of these involved dressing up in a fancy frilled bonnet and being part of a procession in the streets to celebrate!   I remember in my childhood how spring, Easter and bonnets were all tied together.   Church was a very important part of every week as this is where we had rummage sales, CGIT, choir practice, cooking lessons and a number of other community activities in addition to Sunday School and church services....

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Indoctrinate, Condition or Brainwash?

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock New Articles

I remember hearing a story about a woman who went to the butcher to buy meat.   She asked him for a ten-pound roast but added that she wanted a couple of inches to be cut off one end.   When the butcher questioned her about why she wanted this, she replied “I don’t know.  That’s what my mother always asked for”.   Curiosity drove her to ask her mother about why she ordered meat like this.   The mother replied “I don’t know.  That’s just what my mother did”.   Finally, the two went to grandma to ask why she would order a ten-pound...

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Loving During a Pandemic

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Valentines Day iStock News and Society News and Society_World Pandemic

  It is almost impossible to stage a traditional Valentine’s Day outing when everyone is locked up or wearing masks and distancing at least six feet apart.   The days of fancy dinners in exotic locations are out of reach.   But that doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy and show love if you are willing to be creative and wise.    Let’s examine the three psychological aspects of love: Thoughts – So many times I have been touched by individuals who tell me that they have been thinking about me.   What a compliment!   Someone who invests time and energy into reviewing...

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Memories

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_And More iStock Self Improvement Self Improvement_Organizing

Recently I noticed a huge, heavy box on a high shelf in my storage room.   Because it wasn’t labelled I had absolutely no idea what was in it.  How shocked I was once it was at ground level to realize what was inside. There were several hundred greeting cards.   Some were from various birthdays and graduations that I had over the years.    Many were sympathy cards that had arrived after the death of my mother.   A leather pouch that was embossed with “Important Documents” contained wills and insurance policies from my dad who died in 1979.   There were newspaper clippings,...

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Putting Things in Order

Dr. Linda Hancock 16. The Sixteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_New Years iStock

December is usually a very busy month for me, but this year was probably the craziest yet!  The fact that I have been working from home for nine months meant a lot of changes.   My dining room table has become my office center and each chair has specific filing bins with forms that I use.  Yes, I am from the days of yore when everything has been and still takes a paper format.  New software allows me to see my clients on a secure platform that has expanded the “reach” for all of us.  No more driving, parking or waiting...

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Mary's Story

Dr. Linda Hancock 15. The Fifteenth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Christmas News and Society News and Society_World Pandemic

We have had quite a year!   No one ever could ever have predicted the way that our whole world would change in a matter of just a few months.   Each of us thinks that our circumstances are so unusual and have never happened before. I have been thinking a lot about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and how she experienced so many parallels to us.  She must have felt similar to how we are feeling.   Ponder this: Shock – Imagine the shock when this teenaged girl found out that she was pregnant and yet hadn’t been with a man. We...

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Retirement Thoughts

Dr. Linda Hancock 15. The Fifteenth Year Business Business_Career Advice Home and Family Home and Family_Retirement iStock

I am way beyond the magic number that is generally considered retirement age.   Often people ask me why I continue to work.   There isn’t just one answer to that question.   You may want to consider the following ideas when you are planning your own retirement: Satisfaction – I love my work and my clients!! Whether I am providing therapy, writing articles, or teaching seminars, I look forward to each workday.   My clients challenge me to help them develop strategies to improve their lives and also keep me informed about the changes they are experiencing in society.  Milton Garland who was...

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