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Get Your House in Order
A New Beginning
Success in the Work World
Time Marches On
Change Changes Us
The Simple Life
Grief and Loss
What Stage are you In?
Dealing with Tigers
What is Stupid
Are You Worried?
Life's a Puzzle
Let's Sing Along!
Navigating the Journey
Wisdom for all Time
A friend of mine once told me “When we are working harder than the client, we are working too hard”. This applies not just to clients but to people who we think need us. We cannot change other people. Often, we cannot resolve injustices. Sometimes our need to help is stronger than their need to be helped.
It is therefore important that we focus on the things that we can change and that usually means taking care of our physical and mental health rather than letting worry rob us of them.
Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971) was an American Theologian who wrote a prayer for the sermon that he was giving at the Heath Evangelical Union Church in Massachusetts around 1934. Although it was commonly used in different settings throughout the 1930s and 1940s, it was not published until 1951 when it appeared in a magazine column.
Many of us know the short form of the prayer that has been adopted by Alcoholics Anonymous and other twelve-step programs. It is usually recited as three lines. Few, however, know how many versions there are of the prayer and have never even heard the full prayer.
This week, as we stand at the door to a new year, I offer you the three-line version of the Serenity Prayer written by Niebuhr.
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
Serenity is about being calm and untroubled. We can experience this only if we are willing to have good boundaries that allow us to know where we stop, and another person begins. Live and let live. Trying to change another person will not only be fruitless but can be viewed as meddling, controlling or arrogant. Ignoring or not putting any effort into changing and improving ourselves is immaturity. The best results come from daily improvement in our own lives.
My hope is that each of us will cherish the words of the Serenity Prayer and practice them in our lives. If we do this, we will not only be able to enjoy serenity but will make the world just that much better.
Happy New Year, everyone!
About the Author
Dr. Hancock has written a regular weekly column entitled “All Psyched Up” for newspapers in two Canadian provinces for more than a dozen years...