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Grandparenting Through A Divorce

Dr. Linda Hancock 09. The Ninth Year iStock Relationships Relationships_Divorce

I bet you've never even been in a Courtroom before! You don't have a clue about what needs to be done to help your adult child who really should have taken your advice and not married that person in the first place! Right? And then there's the grandchildren. They didn't ask for this and you sure don't want them to suffer. As the grandparent you want to do the right things but haven't a clue how to go about that - especially when the "war" is still happening. People who have never been divorced can either be naïve, ill-informed or...

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I Just Want This to Be Over

Dr. Linda Hancock 05. The Fifth Year Home and Family Home and Family_Parenting Relationships Relationships_Divorce

Often when I am working with people who are going through a divorce they repeatedly say "I just want it to be over". I think they wish that the person who they married was a figure on a chalkboard that they could just erase from their lives with a few strokes of the brush. Even if they have reconciled in the past, I hear stories of how inappropriate the other person was as a partner and as a parent. The one who they had so passionately fallen for in the beginning and lived with for years suddenly is the hated...

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Divorce is Much More Than a Legal Process

Dr. Linda Hancock iStock Relationships Relationships_Divorce

Often, I hear individuals who are divorcing state: "I can hardly wait until this is over".  They have the hope that a legal decree will give them peace freedom and a new sense of identity.  What they don't understand, however, is that divorce is much more than a legal process.  In fact, there are four specific areas of life that are affected by divorce as follows: Financial concerns - There are a number of things that need to be decided before a divorce can be finalized.  All assets, liabilities, income and expenses need to be determined so that matrimonial property...

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Divorce in Three-Part Harmony

Dr. Linda Hancock 01. The First Year iStock Relationships Relationships_Divorce

Divorce rates are high. In fact, some statistics claim that more than half of first marriages end in divorce and the rate is higher for subsequent marriages. This can be rather scary for all the individuals contemplating or involved in a relationship as well as for society! In some countries, ending a marriage can be as simple as looking at the spouse and stating "I divorce thee" three times. In Canada, however, it hasn't been that simple. Traditional practice has been for each partner to hire a lawyer to "represent" him or her. That lawyer then would lead the individual...

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