20 THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU GET THROUGH THIS IN A HEALTHY MANNER
1. Give yourself time and permission to grieve.
2. Ask questions to gain information that will help you to make sense out of things.
3. Eat on a regular basis - even if it is smaller quantities of nutritious foods.
4. Drink at least 8 glasses of water every day - measure out the day's allotment in the morning.
5. Limit your caffeine and alcohol intake.
6. Rest - even if you cannot go to sleep right away.
7. Make sure your self-talk is about what you want - not what you don't want.
8. Attend as many of your scheduled activities as possible - don't isolate yourself.
9. Take care and be safe. Focus on what you are doing.
10. Plan some fun things to do with people who love you.
11. Make sure that you have your regular medical and dental checkups.
12. Be honest with your supervisor, boss and partner if you feel you cannot cope - hiding things won't work anyway.
13. Schedule some time alone. Being lost in too many activities will not lead to resolution.
14. Let go of any past issues that you cannot change.
15. Remember your priorities (family, work, etc.)
16. Avoid making any major life changes.
17. Allow others to deal with this in their own way unless they seriously need help.
18. Give thanks.
19. Talk about what is bothering you - keeping it inside will fester or cause a blow one day.
20. Access resources (Use your Employee Assistance Plan, private insurance or company personnel to help you find and a competent therapist).
Trauma can disrupt your life for a period of time, but it is your responsibility to make sure that you have taken care of yourself so that it cannot become a life-long curse. Sometimes it is the "simple" things that are done repeatedly that actually bring good health. Respect and practice the items of the above-mentioned list so that you will be able to enjoy many, many years ahead without being trapped into a situation that you cannot change.