RELATIONSHIP

I have been very interested in hearing people talk about the word “relationship” and how they tend to define it.  There are many, many variations.

I like the way that the online Google dictionary handles this by stating “relationship is the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected”.

If we consider this definition, we could think of many different ways to apply the concept:
1.    Intimate person(s) – This might be a marital connection, romantic partnership or even a casual but more than friendly human encounter.
2.    Family – There are certainly different levels when it comes to how much time and devotion you might put into different members in your genetic tree.  A cousin, for example, might be emotionally closer than a sibling while there might at the same time, be more geographic distance between residences.
3.    Friendship – If you know, like and trust another person, then you likely want to spend time and energy developing this connection.
4.    Acquaintance(s) – This might be a neighbour, hired professional or maybe someone who you recognize but have little interaction with.
5.    Business – Each of us has a network of individuals who we consult at various times to improve our careers or profits. Their relationship with the business can have many different forms.
6.    Politics – Some people might not want to accept or acknowledge those who govern over us, but our whole socio-economic system ties us up into different forms of relationship.  We might have a relationship with a bank, church or educational structure.  Just think of all the many groups or organizations that impinge upon your life and what your relationship is with them and with the other members involved.
7.    Actions – What we think about and do creates conceptual relationships.  For example, not paying your debts will lead you into a relationship with a bankruptcy Court.  On the other hand, wise saving can promote relationships with airlines, hotel chains and even luxury goods.
8.    Pets – You don’t need to have a partner who talks in order to have a relationship.  Most people actually treat their dogs and cats like family members and value their presence, often above those of humans.
9.    Self – For years, I have been my own best friend.  There are many advantages to this as I know what I want and need.  I actually enjoy my own company but know that I am ultimately responsible for taking care of myself.
10.    Spiritual – This week I was talking with a client about the many aspects of psychology and therapy.  We agreed that there is a spiritual aspect to everything including good health.  What you believe might differ from others but the spiritual relationship you have adopted to support yourself can make a huge difference in how you handle everything that comes your way in life and in death.

There are many other types of relationships.  In fact, the number is limitless. 

This week, think about the many, many relationships in your life and whether they are in good shape, needing some repair or perhaps are even needing to be eliminated.

And the next time that someone says they are in a relationship, perhaps ask a few good questions so that you have total understanding.

Dr. Linda Hancock, the author of “Life is An Adventure…every step of the way” and “Open for Business Success” is a Registered Psychologist who has a private practice in Medicine Hat.  She can be reached at 403-529-6877or through email office@drlindahancock.com