I'm sure that the intent of this story was to illicit a chuckle from the reader but often, in my private practice, I see an unhealthy alliance between these two separate generations against the parents of the children.
Being a grandparent has a number of advantages. Often retirement allows time and finances that were not present for individuals when they raised their own children. Grandparents have "experience" and "wisdom" that they may have lacked in previous years and frequently enjoy being with young people who they can send home after a holiday. The shared experiences can last a lifetime for all concerned.
When I grew up, we had grandparents who lived very close to our town. I remember how I loved to take the train to Wolseley in order to spend the day shelling peas, visiting neighbours or shopping with my dad's parents. They would do things that I thought were unique. They made their own soap, canned fruit and make interesting furniture out of tin cans and wooden spools. I loved it when grandpa would sing a ditty to us or grandma would take us swimming in the dugout.
When I went to Regina to see my maternal grandmother, we would sit in the park, visit the Exhibition, or be introduced to all the staff members in the Co-op cafeteria where she had lunched every day. She taught me how to begin the "Lord's Prayer" in Norwegian and shared stories of our ancestors.
When grandparents use their time with their grandchildren to teach skills, recall memories or instill values, everyone wins. On the other hand, however, if they form alliances that degrade parents or diminish respect, everyone loses.
I have six grandchildren and, of course, they are each amazing! When they visit with me, I try to focus on how I can provide them with unique experiences, information that will increase their sense of "family" and living examples of my values.
I am very cautious about supporting the parents in their roles and openly supporting their decisions to and in front of the children in order to not diminish their positions.
Each of us has the power to create and promote healthier relationships. How have you done this within your family? Remember, your actions become the memories of the generations who follow.