Articles — The Twelfth Year(50)

Focus to Reach Goals

Dr. Linda Hancock Goal Setting Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

I have a client who faithfully goes to the gym three times a week. He told me that he is surprised at the lack of focus of others who are "working out" at the same time. Some of them are so busy looking at their phones that their speed is significantly reduced. Others may doddle or use some of their time visiting so they don't use their time wisely. My client wants to ensure that his workouts are effective for him and has therefore developed a strategy for boosting his productivity. He deliberately wears a sweatshirt with a large hood...

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How to Mess Up Your Children

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family The Twelfth Year

So often adults use the adage "Do as I say - not as I do" and then wonder why their children have problems while growing up and when they become adults. Your bad habits and theirs can continue on for decades and even down to the fourth and fifth generation. It is therefore important to look in the mirror, do a self-inventory and make changes before you create a monstrous situation. Here are some things to consider:1. Never make promises that you won't or can't fulfill. Often I see disappointment in youngsters who wait by the window for a parent...

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The Family Orange

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Twelfth Year

I love looking at the fresh produce at the grocery store. Often I have been enticed by large, beautiful oranges and then am disappointed to find that what I have purchased is mostly peel! You can't eat the peel but it does serve to protect the fruit that lives inside of it. Sometimes it is juicy and nutritious. Sometimes it is small or rotten. Families can be like oranges. Each of us was raised in an environment surrounded by boundaries or peels that separate us from the world. Often, the thicker the peel, the more dysfunction in the family unit....

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Life Is Choices - Choose Thanksgiving

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Thanksgiving The Twelfth Year

It is so easy to focus on all the things that go wrong in a day or in life. Fall is a season that reminds us to focus on the things that are going right - and to give thanks. The snow comes and with it we may experience dangerous driving, frozen locks, inability to find winter clothing, even flooding when the temperatures vary. But, at the same time, most of us enjoy warm houses, reliable transportation choices, and the promise of spring! Technology is supposed to make life easier but it's rapidly changing advances can leave us with feelings...

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How to Remember - November 11th

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Remembrance Day The Twelfth Year

Memory is an interesting faculty of human life. Often I hear clients express concern about not being able to remember everything or recognizing that their memory isn't working as well as it had in the past. My response is to remind them that we are in an age of information and it is not even possible to remember everything. The Internet allows us to access facts within seconds so learning how to search is a wonderful skill that replaces the need to remember. I don't want to remember everything! For example, I have seen over 7,000 clients and I certainly...

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O Christmas Tree

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Twelfth Year

I happened to go into a large retail store recently and was absolutely shocked by the extremely long wall that was stocked from floor to ceiling with artificial Christmas trees. Sizes ranged from those suitable for desktops or apartments all the way up to those that were well over nine feet in height. Choices included spruce, pine, fir and even some that appeared to have freshly fallen snow on the branches. Shoppers could choose green, white, silver or even purple. Some trees had lights, fiber optics or optional attachments to hang them upside down from the ceiling. The rows and...

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Life Is Not A Movie

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Twelfth Year

Younger people are shocked when they find out that I was born in the era of "pre-television". I remember the first day that we got the big box that only showed one black and white event at a time with live commercials. O Canada was played at the end of the broadcasting day followed by a test pattern with a soft but steady squeal that could be observed until the following morning. As technology advanced, we wished that we could sit and watch all the holiday shows instead of travelling to visit relatives but there wasn't any way to record...

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Passion Over a Lifetime

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

When I heard that Ian Tyson was coming to the city, I thought it would be fun to buy an extra ticket so my daughter could attend the concert with me. Her first word after I issued the invitation was "Who?" I explained that when I grew up we would look forward to the "Ian and Sylvia" show. That didn't shed much light on the situation but Kristal stated that I should go ahead and buy the tickets and she would turn to Google in preparation for the event. Sometimes I kind of forgot my own age and the fact...

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Lessons Learned

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

I recently lost a few pounds and decided that because of this, it was a good time to go through my closet. One of the surprises I experienced was to find a lovely pair of black pants that I had forgotten about. So, I washed them and was happy to find that they weren't too tight in the waist. Last Wednesday I was invited out for lunch and decided to wear them. Everything was fine until after the meal when I started walking towards my car in downtown Medicine Hat. My pants felt strange and I didn't realize what was...

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Focus So You Save Time and Money

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

I remember a few years ago when a client told me that his garage was a huge mess. When he needed a screwdriver it was easier to just go to the store and buy a new one! His dream was to travel more but he didn't feel that he had the time or money to do so. I challenged this man to set up a plastic tote with a label that said "Travel". The goal was to get the garage organized with things that he really needed. Every time he came across a duplicate tool or item while cleaning up,...

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Preparing for Life

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

My eighteen year old grandson graduated from high school this year and was fortunate to be hired by a large cement company. His hitch is fifteen days in Kindersley followed by seven days off. This is the first time that Andrew has been far from home for several days at a time. He states that he likes the job but gets lonely. Salary and benefits are amazing. His daily food allowance, for example, is almost as much as his wage was when he previously worked part-time in the grocery store. My daughter has committed to helping her son. She is...

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Attitude Versus Age

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

Most people know Dick Van Dyke because of his movie and television roles. He is likely best known for his roles in Mary Poppins and Chitty Chitty Bang Bang movies where he delighted audiences with his singing and dancing. From his 1940s beginnings as a DJ. Mr. Van Dyke has won the hearts of others, never missing a step in a long career that has spanned eight decades.. He has charmed audiences on radio, stage television, and film winning awards and honours at the Grammys, Emmys, Screen Actors Guild and Hollywood Walk of Fame. He is also recognized as a...

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Wisdom for all Time

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family New Years The Twelfth Year

So often circumstances bring us distress and the urge to do whatever we can to fix the problems that are bothersome.  We think that if we just try harder or pray more the person, we care about will make better choices.  But trying harder and focusing on trouble can steal our health, prevent us from sleeping and not result in what we had hoped for.  Throwing money at the problem can just leave us poorer and result in an unending demand for more. A friend of mine once told me “When we are working harder than the client, we are...

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Life Is Short! Act Now

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family The Twelfth Year

This week my twelve-year-old granddaughter received horrible news. For the second time in a matter of weeks a grandfather has died. Her paternal grandfather had heart surgery about a year ago but seemed to have recovered fairly well. So, everyone was surprised when he passed a few weeks ago. Mikaeli had several opportunities to be with him in her life and got to know him quite well. Because she is so interested in genealogy she was pleased when a number of old photographs were found in his belongings and we have plans to upload these onto the family tree together....

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Labour Day Thoughts

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Labour Day The Twelfth Year

My mother had limited options when it came to choosing a career. She could be a nurse, a nun or a teacher. She wasn't Catholic and didn't think she could handle the duties in nursing. The requirement at the time as preparation for holding a teaching position was to complete a one-year "Normal School" program which she did. Mom taught in small Saskatchewan towns but when my maternal grandmother had both breasts and part of her throat removed because of cancer, she went before the school board to make a proposal. Family was a priority for her. She told her...

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Taking the Stress Out of Learning

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

When I travelled to California for my doctoral convocation I was surprised to be asked this question by the Registrar of the University. "How did you complete this program in only two years?" My reply was "I thought it was a two-year program." He answered "It is but nobody has finished in two years even though it is a full-time task". That surprised me further and I said "But I worked full-time and while I completed the program part-time". We laughed. You see I didn't know there were options. It took me thirteen years to finish my first university degree....

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Distractions Can Harm Us

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

Anne Katherine who is an author, screenwriter, ghost writer and retired therapist stated: "When we clutter our minds with imagined obligations, unnecessary activities, and distractions that only kill time, we dilute the power of our lives." It is so easy to just focus on things that are fun while ignoring the basics of life for which we have responsibility. When you spend more than you earn, for example, it won't take long until you are facing financial problems. As a business owner, I know that going away from the office on a trip costs me in three ways. First of...

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Things Happen

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

Boxer Mike Tyson once said: "Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth". It is interesting that most of us think life should be peaceful and predictable without any problems or crises. But that isn't realistic. There are a number of things that can happen which throw us into a "tizzy": 1. Death - We cannot predict exactly when someone we love will be gone but everything stops as soon as we hear the news. But grief doesn't just last for an hour or a day. It can affect us for a lifetime, especially if we get...

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Goodbyes and Hellos

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

When one door closes, another opens. It is the end of summer and we need to say goodbye to the scorching hot days, flexible schedules and having school-aged children with us round the clock. Yes, it is time to prepare for fall. That means so many things: 1. Reflect - The summer likely provided some wonderful memories. Review the photos, think about the fun times and share your experiences with others.2. Prepare - Flyers display bargains for items that will help your child to enter a new grade with the tools they need. Pens, binders and calculators will likely be...

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Walls Can Trap Us

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

My pedicurist is so wise! At my last appointment she was talking about how people can be imprisoned by unresolved issues. Roxanne placed her hand at chest level with palm down as she explained that trouble comes and the individual doesn't do anything to resolve it. She then used the other hand and, with palm down, placed it on top stating that the next problem occurs and begins forming a pile. Over time, the pile gets higher and higher and higher until the person is enclosed by a wall. Even though the wall protects him or her, they really hate...

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Special Occasions

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family The Twelfth Year

Every day of one's life is important but there are four that I believe have particular significance. 1. Birth - On the day you are born, your whole family tree was altered. The fact that you had arrived was a very momentous occasion, not only for you but for everyone around you. Much thought was likely put into choosing a name that will be with you throughout your entire life. Schedules were altered and expenses incurred on your behalf. That occasion was so important that your actual "birth day" continues to be celebrated each year in honour of you! 2....

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Celebrate!

Dr. Linda Hancock Heritage Day Holidays Home and Family The Twelfth Year

The first Monday in August offers a long weekend to many Canadians. Each province, however, has adopted a different name for the civic holiday. We hear it called Saskatchewan Day, British Columbia Day, Natal Day (Nova Scotia), and Terry Fox Day (Manitoba). Cites in Ontario have each chosen to name the holiday after a former leader or pioneer such as Alexander McKenzie (Sarnia), Simcoe (Toronto), George Hamilton (Hamilton), of Peter Robinson (Peterborough). Nunavut, Northwest Territories and Prince Edward Island recognize the first Monday of August as a statutory holiday. Quebec, Yukon Newfoundland and Labrador do not celebrate on that date...

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Sixty-Five Years Young!

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Twelfth Year

Well, on August 7th I will have my sixty-fifth birthday! I can't really identify any significant changes in my health or personal life but there are a number of things that will change because of that milestone. First of all, I will no longer be required to contribute to the federal, provincial or personal pension plans. My health insurance benefits will continue with the same privileges even though the quarterly premiums will be waived. I will be able to identify myself as a senior for discounts that start at sixty-five. On top of all of this, I will have automatic...

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Influence: Parenting and Grandparenting

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family The Twelfth Year

We had three graduations in our family this year, so spring was busy! Andrew turned eighteen in May and graduated from grade twelve in June. I was surprised to watch all the goings-on to prepare him for the ceremonies and celebrations. His brother gave him a suit to wear. His father took him shopping for a belt and shoes. His mother ordered the corsage for his escort and, an hour before we were to leave, was ironing his shirt so it would be freshly pressed. Thinking that this might be an opportunity to provide a little practical direction, I suggested...

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Idaho Bound

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family The Twelfth Year

While you are reading this, I will be in the mountains of Idaho. (At least that's the plan). As you likely know already, I have a strong interest in genealogy. There are over 6200 people on my family tree! But I am not the only person in our lineage who is passionate about this.Melvin Echelberger, my mother's first cousin, has been not only gathering information about our relatives, but also has contact with many of those who are still living. Over the years, Mel and I have consulted with each other by email, FAX and once by telephone when he...

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