Articles — The Thirteenth Year(46)

How to Succeed in Life and the New Year

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family New Years The Thirteenth Year

I have seen more than 8,000 clients over the years that I have been in Medicine Hat. The other day I was thinking about what I would tell every single one of them if I was only allowed one nugget of wisdom to share. After a few minutes of deep thought, I decided that the best advice that I could give anyone is for them to focus on the right things. It is very easy to become distracted by world events and disasters, relationship drama, financial stress, career challenges or addictions. There are also some very simple practices that, if...

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Create Christmas Spirit

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

I have learned so much from my family, friends and clients over the years. Many of them have had very good reasons to feel sorry for themselves or bemoan their negative circumstances. Instead, they reached out to others who needed help. Much better than sitting at home, staring at a wall and pouting! We all know the expression "It is better to give than receive" but many either don't practice this or miss out on needs that we have right in our own neighbourhood. One of the things that I have been encouraging people to do this Christmas is to...

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A Movie Christmas

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

With all of the available technology today, it is very easy to binge on watching Christmas movies. In fact, some channels are bragging about how many new Christmas movies that they will air this year. It doesn't take long to realize that the template for each is basically the same. 1. Unhappiness - Most of the movies start with characters who are overworked, lonely or experiencing a need that hasn't been filled. Sometimes children seek a parent who has died or left them. Often a romantic relationship breakup has just occurred. Trauma of the past might be the cause for...

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Why Christmas?

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

So there are only a few sleeps to go until December 25th. Many of us have areas in our homes that are infiltrated with shiny packages holding large-screen televisions, new clothing and books that we will be giving to others. One last grocery shopping trip will secure the ingredients for the extensive menu that could feed twice as many guests as we expect. We are exhausted from all the Christmas parties, concerts and extras. The car is fueled for travel that leads to the second or third Christmas feast of the season. Everywhere we turn there are decorated venues and...

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Are You Truly Free?

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Remembrance Day The Thirteenth Year

The Oxford Living Dictionary defines freedom as: "The state of not being imprisoned or enslaved". As we near Remembrance Day we often think about military members who risked their own lives with threats of being imprisoned, enslaved or worse so that we could experience freedom from foreign domination or despotic governments. Most return from their tour of duty with haunting memories of what they saw and did. Many have physical problems that are service-related. All of them realize that they have precious missed time with family and friends as well as the "normalcy" of life at home. It is sad...

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Retreat, Regroup, Ready

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

Do you ever get tired of hearing people tell you how busy they are? Often, they declare this along with the idea that they are feeling overwhelmed. Well, busyness and overwhelm can be altered. I know that I won't be at my best unless I make and follow through with specific plans. When I am feeling too busy, I need to step back and put in boundaries. When I feel overwhelmed, I need to examine my situation and make deliberate changes. Here are three ways that you can improve your life and enjoy peace rather than chaos: 1. RETREAT -...

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Quest for Connection

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

It was 1969! Prime Minister Trudeau was our leader. Singer/songwriter Gordon Lightfoot was topping the charts and Neil Armstrong was the first man to walk on the moon. Free spirits gathered at Woodstock where they smoked marijuana. A White Paper was written to try to correct wrongs done in the past to First Nations people. It was a busy year even in southern Saskatchewan where sixty-six individuals, one of the largest classes ever, graduated from Indian Head High School. The graduating class consisted of a varied group of individuals, ranging from sixteen years to twenty-one years of age. Some had...

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Inter-Generational Fun

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

INTER-GENERATIONAL FUN! I had such a wonderful long weekend! My grandson, Justin, who is nineteen years of age, called and asked if he could come for a visit. He had recently been promoted at work to a management position and got a raise, so he was financially able and excited to make the trip from Saskatoon to Medicine Hat. I believe it was the first fairly major adventure that he planned and undertaken all by himself! Justin had been living with his dad but recently decided to move in with a couple of friends. That was when he first realized...

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Getting Stuck in Life

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

Corb Lund is a western and country singer/songwriter from Alberta. In 2005 he released an album with his song "Truck Got Stuck". Can't help it, I just smile every time I hear it. There are so many lessons in the song lyrics which are apparently based on a true story. 1. People view things differently and perspectives change. Farmers and ranchers who live in southern Alberta usually welcome rain especially after a dry spell. Timing is important, however, and if you are planning an outdoor event, you might not like the timing. Too much rain also can alter attitudes from...

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Establishing Financial Well-being

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

Credit and debit cards can be deceptive. So many people are upset when the bank and credit card statements arrive, and they have to face reality involving how much they have spent and what they owe. In contrast, if you are paying cash for things, it is easier to understand how you are doing financially than if you use plastic Your financial well-being can be simplified into two parts. It is based on how much you earn and how much you spend. With a few adjustments you will begin noticing improvements rather quickly. Earn More1. Adding more hours - One...

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Reputation - How to Keep A Good One

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

You can spend a whole lifetime building a good reputation and then lose it in a matter of minutes! And often the things that lead to ruin are things that we never, ever thought others would find out about. Secrets usually don't remain secrets long-term. The dysfunctional things that we think we can hide usually show up in time despite our efforts to conceal them. This is especially true now that technology has allowed everyone with a phone to making video recordings, view your communications and even hack your accounts. Well, if you want to be safe, make sure you...

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When to Let Go of Trouble

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

I have seen over 8,000 clients. That's a lot of people and a lot of different problems. The other day I was wondering what I would tell every single person if I could only give one piece of advice. I decided that the best wisdom that I could offer is to focus on the right things. We only have so much time and energy. When we focus on the wrong things, we end up with negative consequences. It is easy to say "Just forgive that person" or "Don't worry about this" but that isn't always easy to do. It is...

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Blessings at Thanksgiving

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays More from Self Improvement Self Improvement Thanksgiving The Thirteenth Year

It can be very deceiving to think that we need to have a large bank account and fulfillment of all our hopes and dreams in order to be thankful. The greatest blessings usually don't have a price tag. Unfortunately, the things that enrich are lives are often not valued until they we lose them. Alexander Chambers (1759 to 1834) was a Scottish writer who gave up his career in medicine in order to become a journalist. He is credited for a quotation in which he states that there are three grand essentials of happiness: 1. Something to do - We...

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Good Choices Bring Success

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

Earlier this month I was thrilled and honoured to witness my oldest grandchild receive a degree at the CalSouthern Commencement in Costa Mesa. Since then I have been thinking about the many good choices that Alexander made which led up to this celebration: 1. Timing - It was only days before that Alexander had his twenty-fourth birthday. He started his post-secondary studies when he was twenty, after having several years of working in the food industry. He had begun a part-time job in the local grocery store when he was in high school and subsequently was hired into a Sales...

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Transition and Death

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

September means that it is time to say goodbye to the summer and plan for changes. It is something that we do and expect on an annual basis. Harvest in the fields and in the garden offer the rewards that we had hoped for in the spring. But it is also time to put the hoses away and pull out the heavier clothing. There may be moments of sadness for what has passed over the summer months but there are also wonderful memories that can be treasured for years to come. I find it interesting that we accept transition and...

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Work Smart Rather Than Hard

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

So many times, I hear individuals tell me that they wished they had done something but didn't, forgot an event or just feel overwhelmed with life! There is good news! With a little effort, you can turn your calendar into a tool that relieves stress and makes you feel organized all year round. Here are some techniques that I use to save time and keep me on track. 1. Enter the name of all birthdays along with their year of birth of the individual. That way you never need to remember how old a person is that year. Just do...

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Whatever Happened to the Heroes?

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

When I grew up, heroes were important! Sometimes the hero would be someone from the movies or television who would protect the vulnerable or accomplish what we thought was the impossible. Sometimes our hero would be a sports figure who broke Olympic records, climbed the highest mountain or won championships. Heroes were people who inspired us with their art, music or dance skills. They were the novelists, composers and playwrights who translated human emotion and experience into works that inspired and challenged us. Inventors and business leaders often faced adversity and failed long before they succeeded. Their stories gave us...

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Home Sweet Home - Making It Lovely

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

I remember when my father-in law would say that he kissed the step when he returned home from a holiday. Well I didn't do that this month but after returning from two trips in a matter of weeks I felt good to get back to my condo. Most of us know the expression "There's No Place Like Home" but not everyone thinks that this applies to them. Here are some ideas that might help you to enjoy your home more:1. Keep it Simple - Having too many things in your environment can lead to feelings of overwhelm. Do you really...

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Travelling Challenges

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

I just arrived home from Costa Mesa where my grandson graduated with a degree in marketing. It was quite a crew with Alexander, his parents and his other grandmother attending. No matter how good our plans were or how wonderful the events, there were some problems that just could not be avoided. For example, Alexander threw up on the plane. We think he had just let anxiety build and it culminated in the air because he felt sick again the day that they were to leave. My daughter decided to go to a pharmacy to get some Gravol for him...

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Each of Us Can Make A Difference

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

Lucy Maud Montgomery was born in Clifton Prince Edward Island (now called New London) in 1874. When she was twenty-one months of age, her mother died of tuberculosis. Her father arranged for her to be raised by her strict maternal grandparents in Cavendish and subsequently moved west where he remarried and had other children. Maud, as she was called, was not a happy child and even though she was surrounded by cousins and other extended family members, she did not seem to "fit in". Her physical needs were met but her unmet emotional needs often led her into a state...

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Living Without Labels or Roles

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

When I moved to Medicine Hat, I didn't know anyone, and people didn't know me. I would watch Community Television and read the local newspaper on a regular basis so had a fair idea about the city and some it citizens. I remember purchasing one ticket for a concert that was being held at the Cultural Center. I dressed up and went on my own. Before and during the intermission there was opportunity for patrons to bid on silent auction items while enjoying a glass of wine. People were chatting while standing or sitting in groups during these times, so...

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Dealing with Scary Thoughts

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

In June I was on a holiday in the Maritimes. Part of the trip involved me driving from Charlottetown Prince Edward Island to Halifax Nova Scotia. Suddenly negative thoughts seemed to be coming from nowhere. I found myself thinking "What on earth are you doing, Hancock? You are in a province that you have never been in, driving on a road that you don't know in a rental vehicle. Are you crazy?" Immediately I could feel stress in my body and knew that I had to do something quickly in order to not be at risk. There were some very...

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O Canada

Dr. Linda Hancock Canada Day Holidays Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

This year I will be celebrating Canada Day in the Maritimes. Air Canada had a wonderful Mother's Day Seat Sale and I just couldn't resist! Charlottetown, Prince Edward Island is known as the birthplace of Canada. From September 1 to September 9, 1864 meetings were held to discuss the possibility of Confederation. Originally the only ones who were to participate were Nova Scotia, New Brunswick and Prince Edward Island. These three were hoping to have more political and economic independence from England as well as military power considering the American Civil War. Newfoundland and the Province of Canada which consisted...

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Big Dog, Little Dog

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

There used to be a television commercial where a woman stood with an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other. The whole idea of this advertising campaign was to compare butter to a margarine product. The underlying message was that if you were listening to the angel, you would be making the correct choice. There is a learning theory that is similar. It argues that each of us has a big dog and a little dog inside of us. We are controlled by the one that we feed. The one we feed the most takes over and...

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Needs or Wants?

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Thirteenth Year

Several weeks ago, I received a telephone call from one of my readers. She told me about a motto that her family had when she was growing up. It consisted of three parts: Use it up. Wear it out. Do without. I was inspired by this and since the conversation have been questioning myself regarding whether this applies in my own life. 1. Use it up - They say that you can tell if a chef is good by the amount of garbage that leaves the kitchen. A cook who is creative and wise will hardly have anything left over...

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