Articles — The Third Year(36)

New Beginnings in Letting Go!

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Success The Third Year

As we approach a new year, we hear numerous promotions by gymnasiums and weight loss programs. Financial planners encourage us to meet with them in order to develop a retirement plan. Retail stores invite us to purchase items at reduced prices. Everyone is after us to do more or accumulate more. I have decided to do less and get rid of things in the next year. I am determined to work fewer hours and simplify my business bookkeeping practices. If I use less paper, I will have less to shred one day. Renovating my office has resulted in three smaller...

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The Simple Life!

Dr. Linda Hancock Credit Finance Other Finance The Third Year

Sometimes life seems so complicated! I have a credit card which provides me with points that can be used for a catalogue full of rewards. After several months of using the card, I realized that I had a significant number of points and reviewed my choices with interest. Since I moved into the condo I have been trying to get rid of things and therefore didn't really need anything from the catalogue but did think it would be nice to get a big screen television for my bedroom. I consulted with my "techie" son who advised me to just purchase...

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Time Management - What Did You Do Before?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement The Third Year Time Management

Many times, my clients tell me that they don't have time to develop relationships with others. When I ask them to identify the things that "steal" their time, they are often at a loss for words. Others indicate that they don't have time for themselves but just don't know "where the time goes". This week I challenge you to consider what you did before: Computers and email · Driving children to activities replaced walking · You took that new job · Cell phones · Your family purchased a "bigger" house · Emergency rooms were full · Fundraising was required to...

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Health Psychology - How to Deal With Illness and Surgery

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Other Health and Fitness The Third Year

Recently I had surgery and it reminded me of the intricate manner in which body and mind interact. From the time that my physician recommended the operation until it actually occurred took four years. The waiting was difficult and somewhat unsettling at times. It took three ophthalmologists and four bookings before I actually saw the operating room. In the meantime, I needed to schedule a week away from the office, ensure that the refrigerator was full and arrange for someone to be with me during the procedure. There were pre-operation interviews and a medical history to complete. I was always...

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The Economic Crisis!

Dr. Linda Hancock Finance Personal Finance The Third Year

The world has been on a huge economic roller-coaster ride over the past few weeks! News media blame mortgage meltdown in the United States but I believe that its history goes back to earlier times. When I grew up, we paid cash - and if we didn't have cash - we didn't buy anything. I remember the first time that I heard of a credit card and all the promises it offered. It didn't take long until everyone had one or two or ten! The "paperless" monetary system that resulted allowed individuals to buy things that they didn't need with...

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Problem-Solving - How Do You Eat an Elephant?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Third Year

One bite at a time!   Life can pile up on us and all of a sudden we are facing what appears to be overwhelming tasks. The house is a mess, we have piles of unread mail, renovations never seem to end or work files all seem to be screaming for attention at the same time. The first step to cleaning up a mess is to decide that you are going to do it. Sitting and stewing about the problem will not solve it. Think about what you want the results to look like. Make a plan. Determine what resources...

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What Things Are 100% Preventable in This World?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Third Year

So often we hear comments like "It couldn't be helped" or "It wasn't my fault. Blaming others and dodging responsibility are stances that are rampant in today's society. The other day I was thinking about things that are totally preventable and quickly came up with seven specific topics. There are likely many, many more, but let's just focus on a few of the possibilities: Pregnancy - This one is easy. No sex - no pregnancy. But abstinence seems to be rather rare. A second choice, therefore is birth control but I know many individuals who have used this and still become...

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Love Your Neighbour

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Third Year

Over the years I have heard horror stories about neighbours who have had broken relationships that resulted in various forms of battle. Fences are erected, family pets abused and people are "bad mouthed" for "sins" that might have been committed decades before. I have also witnessed the way that some neighbours look out for each other. They take food to the sick, offer to care for gardens and yards when people are on holiday and shovel snow for the elderly. Relationships between neighbours can evoke either negative or positive feelings! As our world "shrinks" in size due to transportation and...

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What Or Who Do You Trust?

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Third Year

Lately I have heard people state that we are in "troubled times". Stock markets have tumbled as companies with decades of stability face financial disaster. The mortgage meltdown, rising gas prices and unemployment have resulted in many North Americans declaring personal bankruptcy. Seems that you just can't trust the economy. Cancer and heart problems lead an ever-growing list of illnesses that plague societies. Every year we hear about new dilemmas such as West Nile Virus, fibromyalgia or HIV which were unknown to our grandparents. Some diseases are prevalent but without cures. Those with Multiple Sclerosis or Parkinson's disease, for example,...

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Christmas Expectations!

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Third Year

A few years ago, I travelled to Vancouver to take some voice lessons from Juno nominee, Kate Hammett-Vaughan. The first evening we didn't sign a note. Instead we sat in her living room and drank tea while we talked. I had a journal with me and wrote down every word that this woman said. At a later date, I repeated back to her, some of the things she had told me and we were both surprised by the fact that she hadn't remembered saying them. One of the things that most influenced me, however, was when Mr. Hammett-Vaughan stated "You...

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Fear - How to Confront and Kill it So That You Can Succeed and Reach Your Potential

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Third Year

One of the most damaging and limiting things in life is fear. Every week clients tell me about how they are restricted or stopped by things that they think present more risk than they are willing to confront. Fear forms the bars of the cages that hold us back. You see, when we are afraid of things, we do not take chances. Sometimes people have social phobias and are afraid to ask someone who attracts them to go on a date. Usually the person who is afraid is so focussed on his or her own inadequacies that the characteristics and...

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A New Book About Leadership

Dr. Linda Hancock Book Reviews Self Help The Third Year

Lee Iacocca is an 83 year old American leader who has just released yet another best-selling book. He is a self-made man who is probably best known for saving Chrysler Corporation from financial ruin but has also created an extremely impressive list of accomplishments that include the renovation of Ellis Island, overseeing creation of the minivan, organizing Join Lee Now (a group whose goal is to find a cure for diabetes). He is also a philanthropist who is committed to feeding the hungry. Mr. Iacocca identified nine specific traits that are important for leadership in his new book "Where Have All the Leaders Gone?" They...

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The Psychology of Spring

Dr. Linda Hancock Inspirational Self Improvement The Fourth Year The Third Year

Take a deep breath! What you are inhaling is the beginning of a new season. There is a fresh smell in the air that we recognize from previous years. Our taste buds are teased by fumes from barbecues delights of those who are eager to move the cooking outside. There is also expectancy for the vegetative growth of buds, trees and grasses that will soon appear in beautiful fragrances. The fresh air coaxes us into the outdoors where we can observe people who have donned spring coats and ventured outside to walk their dogs, ride bikes or begin the yard...

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A Good Book

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Third Year

Often I am surprised when I hear someone say that they can't stand to be alone. I love to be alone. You see, I follow my aunt's theory. She used to say "A book is a good friend". When I arrive at an airport, I head straight for the bookstore. Usually I know exactly what I am looking for because I have kept a list of topics or authors that have been recommended to me or been promoted on television programs. My "Wish list" on Amazon also holds the items that will form part of my next order. I have...

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Food is Fuel For Your Brain

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Third Year

I love desserts. In fact, ice cream for breakfast would suit me just fine. Over the years, however, I have had to face the fact that we truly "are what we eat" and if we are only eating foods that hold empty calories without good energy we are in trouble. Imagine that instead of filling your gas tank with fuel what would happen if you filled it with sugar. How many miles per gallon do you think you could travel? I once worked for a man who did his doctoral dissertation on the association between eating breakfast and good academic...

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The Thread That Holds People Together!

Dr. Linda Hancock Commitment Relationships The Third Year

Frequently couples come to see me about their relationship problems. They recite what appears to be an endless list of the sins that the other person has committed which has negatively affected the partnering. Sometimes I am told about differences in values, financial indiscretions or disappointments from unfulfilled promises. In one form or another, however, I hear individuals talk about the need for the other person to improve his or her attitude. Many of the complaints are not the problem but are actually a consequence or result of the underlying problem. Couples who began the relationship with starry-eyed wonder can...

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Friendship is Priceless!

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Third Year

Over the years I have been very blessed by an amazing number of individuals who I class as friends. They come in all sizes, shapes, ages and live in various countries around the world. The American Heritage Dictionary describes a friend as "one whom you know, like and trust". Getting to know someone takes time and effort. It requires dialogue and sharing as well as patience and understanding. Developing the friendship can be an interesting adventure which helps you to expand your own perspectives and about issues and cultures. Liking another person can be an instantaneous experience or take considerable time to...

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Shyness or Social Phobia?

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Other Health and Fitness The Third Year

A few years ago, an Administrative Assistant at the mental health clinic opened a large box of books and resources that I had ordered. Everything inside was designated to my attention and the title of each item either had the word "Shyness" or "Social Phobia". With a shocked expression she turned to a co-worker and said, "What on earth is Hancock doing?" The other lady wisely replied "Think about it. She's never had a shy day in her life!" She was correct! I had been assigned to work with a number of clients who were experiencing difficulties in social settings...

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Professionals That Start with the Letter "P"

Dr. Linda Hancock Business Careers Employment The Third Year

Sometimes I tell my clients that it is important that they have three people in their lives who can work together to help them with their health challenges. All three start with the letter "P". Physicians are medical doctors who have been trained primarily to look after your body. They usually have hospital privileges and clinical appointment times which allow interview, examination, and specific testing to determine illness. After assessments are completed, doctors then treat the "patients" usually with medications. We all know how busy doctors can be and I have noticed signs in some of their offices informing patients that...

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What is Asperger's Disorder?

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Third Year

Autism and Asperger's Disorder are both classified in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-IV) published by the American Psychiatric Association as Pervasive Development Disorders. Asperger's Disorder causes clinically significant impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning. The criteria for diagnosis involves two specific categories. Qualitative impairment can be evidenced in use of nonverbal behaviours, failure to develop appropriate peer relationships and lack of social or emotional reciprocity. Eye contact, facial expression, postures or gestures are observed by professionals who are charged with making the diagnosis. Patterns of behaviour which include repetitive and stereotyped interests and activities can occur in preoccupation or...

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Label Or Diagnosis?

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Third Year

Frequently I hear individuals state that they do not like to see people being "labeled" with a diagnosis. I find this a little difficult to understand as I like to be able to name the problems in my life before I try to deal with them. For example, when my bank balance was lower than I expected, I was relieved to learn that an error had been made which resulted in double debits to my account. When my mechanic identified the problem with my car's air conditioning as being a broken switch, I knew that it could be fixed quickly...

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Client Behaviour Can Be Confusing!

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Third Year

Have you ever wondered if your child is really sick - or just trying to avoid attending school? Does it seem convenient that someone who is charged with a criminal act claims that s/he cannot be responsible for their actions because of mental illness? Do you wonder why someone who is receiving a disability payment appears to be healthy? Are there times when you watch individuals "doctor" for years without being diagnosed? Humans are complex. Most people who claim to be physically or psychologically ill, really are experiencing legitimate symptoms and can be diagnosed and treated. There are, however, cases...

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What is Alzheimer's Disease?

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Third Year

Two of my grandparents and my father-in-law had Alzheimer's Disease. Although I was not the primary caregiver for any of them, I found it sad and frustrating to watch them change from the people I knew and loved to people whose personalities and memories disappeared over time. Alzheimer's Disease was named after a German physician, Dr. Alois Alzheimer, who first spoke a scientific meeting in 1906 about a patient who had symptoms that he had not previously observed in others. His 51 year old female patient had problems with her memory, unfounded suspicions that her husband was unfaithful and difficulties...

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The Complexity of Schizophrenia

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Third Year

In 1911 a Swiss psychiatrist who headed a psychiatric hospital at Burgholzli introduced the term schizophrenia. His work, which was known as "Bleuler's four A's" involved disturbances in affect, association, ambivalence and autism. Today, the American Psychiatric Association has identified criteria which is used in diagnosis for many disorders including schizophrenia. Three specific categories regarding symptoms must be present and three specific things must be absent before a diagnosis is given. A psychiatrist or mental health professional examines the presence and severity of characteristic symptoms which may include delusions, hallucinations, disorganized speech, grossly disorganized or catatonic behaviour or other negatives....

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Don't Panic! You Are in Control!

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Third Year

You are sure that you are having a heart attack! You are sweating, trembling and shaking. Your heart is pounding at an accelerated rate and you have severe chest pain accompanied by numbing or tingling sensations in your arms. While you wait for the ambulance you notice that you have shortness of breath, a feeling of choking and wonder if it will arrive in time. You fear that you will die before you reach the hospital. Nausea and abdominal distress are added to feelings of dizziness while, at the same time you are experiencing an eery type of detachment or...

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