Articles — The Sixth Year(40)

Be Active in Your Life

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement New Articles Self Improvement The Sixteenth Year The Sixth Year

I find it interesting to listen to people who are sad, afraid and immobilized because they have heard something that is sketchy which they believe is the truth.  Often the source was unreliable or was just spouting off ideas that had no realistic basis.   Yet, despite the fact that the message was faulty, the individuals who hear it feel victimized and in crisis. Before you allow yourself to fall into a slump consider the following: You have the power to choose what you believe. Adopting or rejecting news is something that you can decide to do at a personal level....

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Telling the Truth

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Second Year The Sixth Year

One day my uncle and I were having a discussion about the effectiveness of the justice system. He stated "It may be slow but it works" and went on to explain his position to me. He had been a judge for many years and noted that when a person tells a lie they have to tell another lie to cover it up. Then they tell another to cover that one and so forth until they finally get to the point that they can't remember what the first lie was. At that point, they are "caught" and the justice system can...

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Remembrance Day Memories

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Remembrance Day The Sixth Year

My mother was born in 1921 and therefore was a young adult when World War II began. She often shared memories of her experiences with me. I still have her many photos of young fellows in uniform with their arms around her who were smiling at the camera. She explained that these were friends who had enlisted in the army and were ready to go overseas on what they thought would be an exciting adventure. Many of them never returned home. Mom talked about how devastating this was not only for family members but also for friends and communities. In...

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How Do I Find a Good Man?

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Sixth Year

So many times I meet with women who are disappointed in their relationships. They state that things didn't turn out the way that they had expected. Here's my advice to all confused young women who would like to find a good man for a romantic relationship: 1. Define "good" - It is very important that you know exactly what qualities you would like to live with on a long-term basis. Would you rather have someone who wines and dines you with his last dime or someone who will pay the bills by their due date? When you talk about "good" are you...

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The Christmas Touch

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family The Sixth Year

According to ancient Christmas custom, a man and a woman who meet under a hanging of mistletoe were obliged to kiss. Some think that this practice may have originated in Scandinavian cultures. Regardless of its origin, the idea of healthy intimate touch is a good one. My daughter was recently telling a friend about how my mother used to take her to the nursing home with her. She would tell Kristal to hold the hands of the older people who she didn't even know just because "they are lonely". This made a lasting impression on Kristal and to this day...

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Don't Assume That People Will Read Your Email

Dr. Linda Hancock Business The Sixth Year Workplace Communication

My grandchildren think I am out-of-date. You see I still use email! They choose Facebook and other forms of social media to communicate and hardly ever check to see if they have messages "the old-fashioned way" through an email account. Now I realize that work and businesses are still using email but that does not at all guarantee that the messages you are sending out will be noticed, let alone read. Here are some of the reasons why this occurs: Most people are overwhelmedwith the amount of information that is thrown at them every day. Everywhere they turn they are...

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Sharing Your Story

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Sixth Year

As a psychologist I have had interesting opportunities. This month I have been staying in northern Alberta doing crisis work. Firebag has a population of about 4,000 workers but none of them are permanent residents. They travel in and out of the dry camp from homes all over the world to accommodate their shift schedule. Over the last six days I have been able to watch how the lives of these people interconnect and listen to their communication with each other. It is obvious that some of the workers are from the same "hometown" and that their families have known...

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One Word Can Change a Relationship

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Sixth Year

Many years ago I worked in a church in Saskatoon. A man from the Philippine's set up an affiliate congregation and I soon came to love the people. The only word that I ever learned in Tagalog, which is the language that they spoke, was "Mabuhay". I first saw it on a sign that the group was taking to the airport to welcome their new immigrant friends. The literal translation of this word is "long live" or "be alive" but it is often used as a greeting such as "welcome here". It is surprising how many times in the past...

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How Do I Find a Good Woman?

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Sixth Year

Last evening a handsome young man asked me for some advice about women. He wanted to know how to build a good relationship and indicated that he has been with beautiful women but things just didn't work out. Here's my advice to all confused young men who are craving relationship: 1. Deal with your own issues first - There may be things in your life that you have been neglecting. Are you drinking too much, having problems taking responsibility for your actions or living a life of financial wrecklessness? If these or other things are preventing you from being a mature person,...

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How to Outline Your Business Presentation

Dr. Linda Hancock Business Other Business The Sixth Year

The King in Lewis Carroll's "Alice's Adventures in Wonderland" had good advice that all of us should follow. He stated "Begin at the beginning and go on till you come to the end: then stop." This formula will work for any project that you are planning but particularly so for a business presentation. The key is to know what to begin with, what to include until you come to the end and when to stop. Following is an outline that will work well for any presentation. 1. Introduce yourself - Do not assume that anyone in the room will know...

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How to Come to Terms With an Alcoholic Parent

Dr. Linda Hancock Addictions Self Improvement The Sixth Year

There's an old saying "You will never be disappointed unless you have expectations". So often society helps feed our goals and dreams. We want the ideal family and relationships that are often portrayed in the Hallmark commercials where everyone is happy and eager to build strong connections with each other. But life doesn't work that way and sometimes addictions set up patterns that are divisive and disappointing for the family members. Over the years I have worked with so many clients who have been let down by an alcoholic parent who has made a promise that s/he has not kept....

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It's Time To Give Thanks!

Dr. Linda Hancock Inspirational Self Improvement The Sixth Year

Many people complain and complain about things or people in their lives. Some even seem to have nothing positive at all to think about. No matter how difficult we believe our situation is, however, there is always someone who has it worse. It is easy to forget that other people suffer on a daily basis and have few of the blessings that we tend to take for granted when we put our time and energy into focusing on ourselves. This Thanksgiving, try to keep things in perspective: If you are unhappy with your housing - think about those who are...

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Why Don't I Have Any Money?

Dr. Linda Hancock Finance Personal Finance The Sixth Year

I remember when I was in grade eight and my father was scared to resign from his job because he didn't want to lose the three hundred dollar a month income that he was paid. But then you have to consider that our house had only cost six thousand dollars. We were never really what I thought was "poor" but we really didn't have any extra money. Our family of four saved to have one holiday. We drove in our only vehicle from Saskatchewan to British Columbia and stayed at the house of my father's friend and visited Stanley Park....

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Things You Wish That Your In-Laws Understood

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family The Sixth Year

Often I hear horror stories from my clients about the problems and arguing that happens when in-laws do not respect boundaries of their adult child and his/her family. In fact, many couples claim that the biggest fights occur with or about the in-laws. Most of them wish that their in-laws understood the following: 1. The adult child has a family and a home that does not belong to the family of origin. When the child leaves and establishes his/her own home, the parents need to recognize that this is not merely an extension of their own property and show respect just...

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Talking to Your Kids About Drug Addiction

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting The Sixth Year

Parents have many responsibilities and one of them is to ensure that communication about difficult subjects occurs. Because of the easy access to street drugs, it is therefore important that you are able to provide the education and environment to talk that will protect your child from using and becoming dependent. Following are some tips to help you with this process: Start early - Unfortunately children are exposed to the idea of drug use through movies, technology and media. Sometimes the lives of people who children view as "heroes" in society are using drugs and their behaviours can therefore easily be...

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What We Can Learn About the Truth From Honest Abe

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Sixth Year

Abraham Lincoln was the sixteenth President of the United States and served in that capacity from March of 1861 until he was assassinated in 1865. Throughout his life he had several nicknames but the one that everyone recognizes is "Honest Abe". Lincoln was born in a Virginia log cabin and raised in poverty. He had very little education and several careers before his death but still was able to be a strong leader for the country during the Civil War which held both military and moral crises. There are several things that we can learn about the truth from "Honest...

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Facing Your Financial Reality!

Dr. Linda Hancock Finance Personal Finance The Sixth Year

The recent debt crisis in the United States and media coverage of a volatile world economic situation has brought us to a point of realizing that when it comes to money, we just have to facts the facts! You cannot spend more than you earn without facing consequences! I enjoy the television program "'Til Debt Do Us Part" - not because I like to see people who are in financial trouble but because there are specific things that can be done to get people out of financial trouble. Following are some simple steps in the formula that can lead to...

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Don't You Wish You Could Yell "Grow Up!" Sometimes?

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships The Sixth Year

Do you ever watch the behaviours of another people and then feel frustrated because they seem to be immature and irresponsible? I bet there are times that you would love to yell "Grow Up"! Well growing up isn't something that is easy to do and not everyone wants to put in the effort that will bring them into maturity. I once heard an individual say that experience is something that you wish was happening to the other guy! But if you think about it, experience is what helps people to become more capable. Most of us want to be respected...

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Back to School Advice!

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting The Sixth Year

As the new school year approaches there are some parents who will be sad to see the summer fun end and others who are counting the sleeps until everything gets back into a routine. Preparing your child for the re-entry into school is important and there are several things that you, as the parent, can do to help things get off on the best foot:   Get the proper school supplies - Now you don't have to buy everything new but you do need to ensure that your child has what the teacher recommends. Try having a scavenger hunt and...

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Parenting Challenges: I'm Bored!

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Parenting The Sixth Year

My daughter, her family and I were standing by the concession booths at the Medicine Hat Stampede when my seventeen year old grandson announced "I'm bored!" I just couldn't believe it! We had gone through the pavilions, watched Clint Black and attended the Friday rodeo. Wrist bands for Saturday provided opportunity to ride in the midway all day. Our tummies were full and he was bored! I asked "What would you like to do?" and the reply was "I don't know". So often children and teens talk about being bored and I have been thinking about what they are really...

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I Want to Be Happy!

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Sixth Year

So many times I have people say that they will be happy once a specific event occurs. They think that once they move into the new house, start their job, travel or retire they will be happy. But it doesn't work that way. If you truly want to be happy there are several things that you can do:   Decide to be happy - You are not just a victim of circumstances and of your emotions. Think about it this way. If you are in a horrible argument with someone and your respected hero enters the room, what will happen?...

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You Already Have All You Need!

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Sixth Year

Recently I was asked to do some work at a camp north of Fort McMurray. It was obvious that I was naïve about the environment and orientation sent my thoughts into overdrive. Because of the hot summers in Medicine Hat, I am used to wearing light dresses and sandals to work. When I stated this during my travel orientation, I was told "You'll stand out!" It seemed that I would need to make a trip to Work Warehouse to prepare for the project! Then I decided to do a little research of my wardrobe before beginning a shopping trip. A...

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Trick Yourself Into Doing Well

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Sixth Year

I find that unless I make a deliberate effort to do certain things, they just don’t get done.  It is far easier to distract myself and do something that is more “fun” instead. For example, I love to have a clean house but don’t like cleaning.  Years ago, I decided to hire a lady to clean in order to keep myself on track.  The night before she arrives, I put away the shoes that I have left by the door, recycle my pop cans, and change the sheets on the bed.  She can therefore focus on the cleaning and when...

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Three Things You Should Do If Your Teen Runs Away from Home

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Sixth Year

Often clients come to see me in a state of crisis. They are afraid, embarrassed and worried because their teenager has run away from home. More than anything, they are desperate to get them back but don't know how to do that. Before you go frantically racing out and kidnapping them, consider the following: 1. Find the child and tell him/her that you love and want them to be safe. Offer to drive them to a shelter or connect them with a community resource. Recognize that if the child was upset enough to run away, there must be something seriously...

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I'm Not Going to File My Taxes This Year

Dr. Linda Hancock Finance Other Finance The Sixth Year

Well with spring comes that time when governments revive up the computers and open their coffers waiting for you to send in an overview of your financial situation for the previous year. Even though it is common knowledge that income tax documentation is due in April I am surprised by the number of people do not file by the deadline. In fact, there are thousands who have ignored this practice for years and then face overwhelming consequences. If you have been thinking about skipping the whole tax filing process, there are a number of things that you should know: This...

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