Articles — The Seventh Year(45)

The Christmas Party

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Self Improvement_Techniques Techniques The Seventh Year

It is exciting! You have a new outfit and had taken extra care to make sure you are all "spiffed up". You are looking your very best. Just a little fragrance and minimal but perfectly-chosen jewelry make the final touches and you are ready to go. Everyone's been chatting it up for weeks. It's the annual Christmas Party. Eyes turn as you walk through the door. You look good and feel good. There's a relaxed atmosphere as everyone smiles and laughs easily. No one is talking about work tonight. Not a care in the world right now. You're here to...

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Twelve Tips For The Twelve Days Of Christmas

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Christmas The Seventh Year

Every year the PNC Financial Services Group in the United States calculates the cost to purchase all the items in the carol "The Twelve Days of Christmas". For 2012, the total cost of these would be $107,000 in US dollars. Well, not everyone could afford this. Most people probably wouldn't want to give or receive the collection of geese, ladies dancing, French hens and other unusual things that are sung about. Gift-giving can be difficult, expensive and time-consuming. Consider the following twelve tips which should make the whole experience easier for you this year:   If someone suggests that they...

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Different Perspectives of Christmas

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Christmas The Seventh Year

The other day I bought a pop-up book of the Christmas story to share with my seven year old granddaughter. She was so surprised when I mentioned that the stable must have been very smelly. I guess she had never thought about the fact that this was the home (and bathroom) for the animals. We talked about the wise men and why they might be called "wise" as well as how they were able to afford nice clothes and expensive gifts. Always wanting to plant ideas that might germinate in the future, I suggested that perhaps they had gone to...

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You Can Laugh or You Can Cry

Dr. Linda Hancock Personal Growth Self Improvement Self Improvement_Personal Growth The Seventh Year

So many times, I wished that God had put me on his Board of Directors. You see, I thought that I was wise and knew what would be best for me. I also believed that if God really loved and cared for me that He would honour my ideas. Well, after some time had passed, I usually had opportunity to see how things actually turned out better than my original plans. Over the years I have therefore learned to be thankful that I have never been invited to be His Board member! And I've learned to trust that things will...

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Making Resolutions That Bring Daily Success

Dr. Linda Hancock Achievement Self Improvement Self Improvment_Achievement The Seventh Year

At the beginning of each year, we hear people talk about leaving the "old beyond" and starting "anew". Often this involves making resolutions to lose weight, save money, reach career goals or improve a relationship. Unfortunately, by February, the gym that had been packed a few weeks previously is now empty. Habits creep in and behaviours revert back to the way things were before the vows were made. The bank account is emptied as the Christmas bills arrive and everyone is just too tired to work hard enough to make any progress on career goals. Then everyone waits for the...

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Genuine Friendship

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships Relationships_Friendship The Seventh Year

I just had two lovely conversations with treasured long-term friends. (I won't call them "old friends" because that might imply that we are aging). First of all, I was pleased to have an unplanned meeting with Bryan. He is CEO for a government agency and one of the first people who I met when I moved to Medicine Hat. I reported to work that morning sixteen years ago and he quickly began introducing me to other employees. His kindness was appreciated, and our friendship began forming right then as he gave me a comfortable start in my new workplace. Over...

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Tips for Employees to Reduce Stress

Dr. Linda Hancock Business Business_Career Advice Career Advice The Seventh Year

Many years ago, I was working in an organization in Saskatchewan and struggling with some of the management's behaviours. My friend told me that her husband had taken several business and leadership courses so it would probably be wise for me to talk with him about the situation. In a matter of only an hour or so I learned four very important lessons: Do not take on responsibilities that belong to another person- Every person has a monkey on his back. They carry them around on their backs and this is annoying. They want to get rid of theirs, so...

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Why Wait Until It's Too Late?

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships Relationships_And More The Seventh Year

It seems that almost every week I have an individual on my therapy couch who is upset over a lost relationship. There are usually tears and statements such as "I know that I wasn't a good partner but I never knew that s/he would leave!" Often this statement ends with the word "again". Then the person who was left talks about all the things that s/he has done to try to win the other person back - things that they should have done in the past that would likely have kept the relationship alive. They purchase trips to the Caribbean...

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You Are the Role-Model

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Home and Family_Parenting Parenting The Seventh Year

Children learn from those around them. What are you saying? Do you tend to use threats with your children that everyone, including you, knows that you will never act upon? Saying things like "I will never bring you to the store again" will not, in the long term, be taken seriously by your child and will certainly, over time, erode any respect for you that you'd hope to receive. Raising your voice on a regular basis will likely cause fear when first heard but may eventually result in others tuning you out while you go hoarse. Are you using the...

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For These Things We Give Thanks

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Thanksgiving Thanksgiving The Seventh Year

So often in life we complain about things that are really of no consequences. When we do give thanks, our gratitude is usually limited or tied to pleas for more blessings to be given to us. Genuine thanks includes the daily occurrences that we often take for granted and these are honoured when they occur with positive thoughts and a warm heart. This Thanksgiving, let us focus on the little pleasures that make life so comfortable and pleasant: A kind friend. The first bite of a favourite recipe. A soft pillow under a tired head. Peace. The fresh smell after...

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Remembrance Day: Did You Ever?

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Remembrance Day Remembrance Day The Seventh Year

Did you ever...   run, walk or work out until you ached all over and then start all over again? wake up in the dark and go to bed hours later in the dark? practice and practice and practice to learn one skill? leave your family for months at a time to live and work in a far-off country? think that your boss was a control freak or a micro-manager? wonder at times why you choose your career path? experience cold, hunger and loneliness all at the same time? do what you were told when you didn't understand or agree?...

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Trick Yourself Into Doing Well

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement Self Improvement_And More The Seventh Year

It is so easy to just let things slide! And then suddenly you look around and realize that your house or office is a mess and cleaning it up seems overwhelming! Following are some tips to help you to avoid this type of situation: Don't let things get out of control in the first place - When you take off your clothes at night either hang them up again or put them in the laundry hamper. Do your dishes right after each meal. Clean off your desk or work area at the end of each day. It only takes a few...

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Treasure the Professionals

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Self Improvement_Success Success The Seventh Year

I just got back from an appointment with my ophthalmologist and was once again reminded of how important the professionals in my life are to me. So often we talk about the things that we value but how often do we think about all the people who help us to have a good day? What would you do without a good hairdresser or mechanic or accountant? Think of all the skills that you would have to learn in order to look great, ensure that your vehicle is running efficiently and feel confident that your Income Tax was done accurately. Many...

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The Day Book

Dr. Linda Hancock Organizing Self Improvement Self Improvement_Organizing The Seventh Year

My mother taught school for thirty-five years. Twenty-seven of them were in grade two! Every night, before she left the classroom, she would do two things. First of all, she would straighten up the room - brushing the blackboards, picking up paper on the floor and organizing the top of her desk. Then she would bring out what she called her "Day Book" and write down all the things that she would do with the students the next day. Now this wasn't a very complex task. She might write "Focus on the letter M" or "Learn about measurement" or "Complete...

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Quit Thinking About It - Just Do Something!

Dr. Linda Hancock Achievement Self Improvement Self Improvment_Achievement The Seventh Year

So many times, I listen to individuals who state that they would like to get into the workplace but don't know what they want to do. Others tell me that they haven't gone back to school because they haven't decided what field to enter. And so, time passes and passes, and they just sit in limbo. In 1999 Milton Garland was 101 years old and classed as the oldest worker in the United States. He was asked why he continued to work even though he was well passed the retirement age. He replied by stating that people make the mistake...

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Binge Drinking: How Much Is Too Much?

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Health and Fitness_And More Other Health and Fitness The Seventh Year

There has been a lot of media coverage lately about the changes recently made regarding Alberta's drinking and driving laws. The penalties are not only stiffer but the .08 blood alcohol content that was used in the past to define "intoxicated" is being lowered to .05. But what the professionals are concerned about lately is not the term "intoxicated" but the term "impaired". You see these are two very different terms that need to be understood clearly. "Intoxicated" is a legal term that is used in the legal system. "Impaired" is a more general term that is used in health...

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Say What You Want

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Health and Fitness_And More Other Health and Fitness The Seventh Year

So often people tell me how upset they are about things that are happening in their lives. They rehearse all of the details of their troubles over and over again and are convinced that things will not change or get better. Then they complain that other people seem to be avoiding them. No wonder! What do you think would happen if, instead of saying what you don't want, you would say what you do want? You really have nothing to lose by doing this. You see, repeating negatives over and over again is depressing! And you have a far better...

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I'm Moving Up!

Dr. Linda Hancock Finance Finance_Personal Finance Personal Finance The Seventh Year

Well, it's nice weather and often that brings thoughts of moving - but the move might not be motivated by anything more than a desire to change locations. And the results might include costs that you really never considered. I remember when my cousin bought a beautiful new boat. He drove friends and family around and around the lake for hours. I remarked on how much the gas was costing and he wisely told me that before he made the purchase, he factored in all the operational costs so that he would be prepared without any financial stress! Good thinking!...

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What Is Labour Day?

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Home and Family_Holidays Home and Family_Holidays_Labour Day Labour Day The Seventh Year

When I grew up things were different! All the stores were closed on Sunday and Monday. The whole town shared the same opening and closing times throughout the rest of the week. Sometimes we had Saturday night shopping. Families would hurry through supper so they could angle park their cars on the main street and use the time to socialize with friends who popped in and out of the shops. There weren't any convenience stores though and there sure wasn't any way to get a quart of milk at night if you forgot to pick one up during the regular...

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Don't You Trust Me?

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships Relationships_And More The Seventh Year

Past behaviour is one of the best predictors of future behaviour. We are all creatures of habit who tend to do the same things over and over again. So, if you want to know whether you can trust someone it is best to look at the pattern that they have already established in that area of their lives. When a person promises to pay the bills on time but has been delinquent in the past - be cautious! It isn't very wise to believe someone with a huge pile of speeding tickets who claims "This will never happen again". A...

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Summertime and Living Is Easy

Dr. Linda Hancock News & Society News & Society_Weather The Seventh Year Weather

Remember those cold, snowy days of January? It was then that we wished for summer and now that it has arrived, it's time to enjoy it to the fullest. There is really nothing that can compare with the smell and taste that comes from the barbecue and this week was no exception. We soaked everything up, as well as the pleasant evening, while sitting on the deck and watching the river flow past. A few days later, my son's family and I went to one of the city's water parks. It was so interesting to watch the little children race...

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Enjoyment Comes with Planning

Dr. Linda Hancock The Seventh Year Travel and Leisure

This fall I will be travelling to India for the first time. Even though I have been to several other destinations over the years and didn't know what adventures were ahead of me when I chose them, this trip to the other side of the world requires much more planning and commitment. The flight alone is twenty-three hours each way! I realize that I cannot plan every detail (and don't want to as that would take some of the excitement out of it) but also know that doing my research and preparing will not only ensure that things will go...

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Work-Care Balance

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Self Improvement_Techniques Techniques The Seventh Year

It was one of those crazy weeks where you wonder how on earth you are going to get everything done. I had just returned from my grandson's graduation in Saskatoon, which was lovely, but this also meant that I had been out of the office for several days. I knew that the mail would be piled up at the door and my inbox would have several hundred new emails demanding attention. My youngest son, who has been accepted in the Social Work program at the College, had agreed to begin working as part-time administrator in my office for the fall....

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Relationship Problems and Learning To Let Go

Dr. Linda Hancock Other Relationships Relationships Relationships_And More The Seventh Year

So many times I hear about individuals who were hurt by a lover yet they don't want to let go of the relationship. They hold onto the hope that things will be good in the future - even if they haven't been good in the past - if they can only hold on. As an outsider, it just doesn't make sense. Those who are caught in the unhealthy situation are often attractive, intelligent and kind. They are willing to give of themselves for the benefit of the other person but don't seem to be able to protect themselves from further...

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Lies or Truth - You Decide!

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Self Improvement_Techniques Techniques The Seventh Year

It can be so hard to understand why people tell lies - especially when it seems obvious that they are lying and will be "caught". I remember once when parents came to see me because they were concerned about their daughter. They said "She lies all the time". My reply was "That's what liars do!" You see, it can be effective and done so often that it becomes a regular part of life for some. Over the years I have learned that individuals are motivated to lie for a number of reasons: 1. To avoid trouble or consequences - Children...

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