Articles — The Fifteenth Year(50)

Mary's Story

Dr. Linda Hancock Christmas Holidays Home and Family Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

We have had quite a year!   No one ever could ever have predicted the way that our whole world would change in a matter of just a few months.   Each of us thinks that our circumstances are so unusual and have never happened before. I have been thinking a lot about Mary, the mother of Jesus, and how she experienced so many parallels to us.  She must have felt similar to how we are feeling.   Ponder this: Shock – Imagine the shock when this teenaged girl found out that she was pregnant and yet hadn’t been with a man. We...

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The Wonder of Joy

Dr. Linda Hancock Personal Growth Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

Over the years I have met so many people who are blessed in every area of life but, at the same time, state they are miserable.  They do not have to worry about finances.   They enjoy good health and loving relationships.   They live in safe and secure environments that are filled with everything anyone could want.   Yet they are miserable! On the other hand, I have also met many people who have very little and yet they are filled with joy.   Some struggle with health issues.  Others have nothing materialistically.  They might not have career options and don’t even know...

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Adversity Builds Strength

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

There is an old expression that states: “Experience is what you wish was happening to the other guy!”.  None of us like to go through difficult times. Everyone states they want to enjoy good health but really don’t want to invest the time and energy needed to embrace it.  Finding the motivation to exercise can be an ongoing battle.  We know that going to a gym or taking a long walk when we have been sedentary, will cause sore muscles!  Learning to cook and planning menus will provide good, nutritious meals that actually are less expensive than eating out or...

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Retirement Thoughts

Dr. Linda Hancock Business Career Advice Home and Family Retirement The Fifteenth Year

I am way beyond the magic number that is generally considered retirement age.   Often people ask me why I continue to work.   There isn’t just one answer to that question.   You may want to consider the following ideas when you are planning your own retirement: Satisfaction – I love my work and my clients!! Whether I am providing therapy, writing articles, or teaching seminars, I look forward to each workday.   My clients challenge me to help them develop strategies to improve their lives and also keep me informed about the changes they are experiencing in society.  Milton Garland who was...

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The Mind/Body Connection

Dr. Linda Hancock Goal Setting Health and Fitness Other Health and Fitness Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

When I was young our family used to love to go to Katepwa Lake for holidays. My uncle had a beautiful boat with a sixty-horsepower motor and all my cousins enjoyed water skiing behind it. The problem was that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t seem to get up out of the water! I remember the morning of my nineth birthday. The sun was shining, and the water was as smooth as glass. First thing I asked my uncle if I could try once again to ski. He agreed. After carefully tying on the life jacket, I got...

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Social Media Addiction

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

This fall a documentary called “The Social Dilemma” began airing on Netflix.   In it former employees of large technology companies are interviewed and tell about how their work initially appeared to be helpful for society but later, because of its impact, led them to resign from their positions. Actors who are portraying a family in this show, have different ways of interacting with social media.  A teenage son, who is constantly online is challenged to not touch his phone for a week and, if successful, would receive a new screen to replace the one that is broken.  Unfortunately, the notifications...

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Honouring Our Veterans

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Remembrance Day The Fifteenth Year

Over the years I have had the privilege of working with many Veterans and they have taught me so much about the sacrifices they made for our freedom.   I used to be in awe of the courage that our military displayed in very traumatic situations that I frankly would not have attempted.  More recently, however, I have come to realize that one of the most significant impacts on their lives was the need to adjust several times in order to fulfill their roles. We have likely all heard or seen military recruitment materials that offer an opportunity for those who...

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I Live in my Bubble

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

Some people live lives that are like a football field.   They let everyone run all over them and then throw Gatorade on them at the end of the fourth quarter.  They are worried about the opinions of others – even people that they don’t know.   Unfortunately, their desire to please can leave them feeling resentful, knowing that they have worked to get everyone else’s needs meet while theirs are neglected. Others live as though they are surrounded by those big grey cement blocks that are used for building schools and hockey rinks.   They are so protective of themselves that they...

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How Much is too Much?

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

Frequently, individuals tell me that they are overwhelmed with life and after a few questions they reveal the fact that they are surrounded by “stuff” that steals their time and energy. Laundry piles up when teens try on several outfits in the morning, throwing the ones they don’t want on the floor.   When it is time to prepare for a wash, they just gather up everything despite the fact that most of it is already clean.  A lot of clothes mean a lot of laundry. Toys all over the place can be very annoying.  Paperwork can feel like a burden....

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Rights and Responsibilities

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

I have never had any desire or intention to hijack or blow up an airplane.  Before boarding, however, I remove my jacket, take off my shoes, put my laptop in a tray and submit to other security procedures.  You see, I understand that someone else might want to blow up or hijack the plane.  It is my right to fly but my responsibility to participate in safety measures. I have a license that gives me the right to drive but also the responsibility to drive safely. Each of us has many, many other rights and responsibilities as citizens and individuals...

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Noticing Daily Gifts

Dr. Linda Hancock Holidays Home and Family Thanksgiving The Fifteenth Year

  Last Saturday I had a long list of things that needed to be done so got an early start.  I headed to my office to drop off and pick up items that would sum up my week’s work with clients.  There wasn’t anyone in the professional building which offered an interesting silence.    For a couple of hours, I just soaked up the comfort and beauty of the space I had decorated for clients and staff while autographing books and doing some paperwork. Next, I picked up a grocery order that I had placed online and then headed to...

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Beliefs Drive Our Behaviours

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Pandemic Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

When a baby elephant is born, those in charge use a chain around one of its legs and a stake in the ground to limit its ability to roam.  Over time, even though the elephant grows to more than 5,000 pounds and has considerable strength, it has a belief that it cannot move beyond what the length of the chain allows.   It has been conditioned. As humans, we also are conditioned.   In childhood we are influenced by our parents who may pass on ideas that aren’t even rational – yet we believe what they say – even into adulthood at...

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Common Sense

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

A few weeks ago, I was doing a therapy session with a couple who was having a very loud argument.  The language was harsh, and they weren’t making any progress towards resolution of the issue. I jumped in with a piece of advice. The husband immediately turned to the screen and said “Linda, that is just too much like common sense.  I don’t know how to handle common sense because there isn’t any of it in the world anymore”.   Fortunately, we all laughed and that broke the tension. But what he said was also sad.  Common sense is NOT common,...

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Confusing Questions

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

There have been so many changes in our world this year and I frequently have questions that do not seem to have clear answers.  I wonder if you are also confused about things. Here are some topics that I have been pondering: PANDEMIC SEVERITY – I told you previously that I was very ill in January but that was before we started testing for COVID-19, so I really don’t know if I had it. I am confused about why some areas were hit very hard by the number of cases while others were not.  Statistics are being questioned by many...

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Conspiracy Versus Truth

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

In the past few weeks, I have been hearing a lot about “conspiracy theories” and “conspirators” so thought I would see if I could get a better understanding of what these terms mean. The Merriam-Webster dictionary states that a conspiracy theory “explains an event or set of circumstances as the result of a secret plot by usually powerful conspirators”.  Sounds to me like the stuff mystery novels are based upon.  Joy in the reading comes from seeing the “secrets” revealed as the plot develops and motivation of the characters is uncovered. Conspiracies are tied to beliefs that individuals hold.  I...

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Personal Choices in a World of Chaos

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

In the first week of January 2020 I became extremely ill from “something”.  My symptoms, which evidenced primarily between my chin and my waist were highly unusual and I didn’t believe that I had ever experienced anything so horrible in my life.  It was strange because I had been faithful in taking my vitamins, had my flu shot and made sure that I always followed through with medical checkups for dental, physical and vision. My first response when I got sick was to follow health practices of the past which I had used for years to fight illness.  I went...

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Are Things Worse Than Ever?

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

I find it interesting to discuss the state of our world and how it has changed.  Some people believe that it has gotten far worse over time.  Others focus on positive advancements.  A third group blends aspects from both of these stances. Let’s try to put things into perspective by acknowledging a few concepts:   There has always been trouble in the world. Those who have studied the Bible know that evil appeared to Adam and Eve in the form of a talking snake.  Their two children, Cain and Abel got into an argument that resulted in murder.  Only one...

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It's Not All That Bad

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

The pandemic that arrived in late 2019 seems to have frozen much of our world.  Since it arrived there have been school closures, significant economic ramifications, government regulations to self-isolate, and restricted travel.  An attitude for citizens consisting of fear and confusion due to mixed messages is also evident. But it is not all bad.  There are many things in the world, in fact, that have improved or shifted because of the pandemic:   Business Innovation – Many owners have adapted to non-contact restrictions by offering options for take out or delivery. Some even changed the products that they were...

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My Responsibility

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could control everything?  Well, maybe not!  I can remember when, in my youth, I would think that I had some amazing ideas and if God would just appoint me to his Board of Directors, I could enact them.  How naïve!  In time I realized that it was good that I didn’t have that role as I would have messed up an awful lot of things! Now that I am older and hopefully much more “mature” I realize that I have both rights and responsibilities to enact at a personal level.  Everyone seems to focus...

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We Are At War!

Dr. Linda Hancock Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

World War II began in 1939 and ended in 1945.  The countries who were called “allies” included Great Britain, France, the Soviet Union and the United States.  They were fighting against Germany, Italy and Japan which were known as the Axis Powers.   I clearly remember many stories that my mom told me about the Second World War and how it changed her life as well as the whole world.  Lately I have been thinking about how our war with COVID-19 has parallels to what everyone experienced back then.   Fear – When we feel that we don’t have control...

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A Challenge

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fifteenth Year

I always try things that I recommend for my clients to make sure that they are reasonable and achievable. Over the years, when clients have indicated that they are struggling financially I ask them “How much do you spend on groceries in a month?” Then “How much do you spend eating out or ordering in>?” Finally I query “If all the stores were closed and you couldn’t purchase anything there, how long could you go just by eating what you have in your house right now?” Often the replies are interesting. I hear things like: “But I wouldn’t have fresh...

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It Only Takes Two to Get Married

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fifteenth Year

My mom and dad were married on July 4, 1951. That morning mom went shopping for blue shoes to match her wedding dress. She knew that stores in Regina closed at noon on Wednesdays back then, but she needed the shoes as the ceremony was scheduled for one o’clock that day. The store didn’t have her size, so she purchased ones that were the right colour but too big for her feet! Before the ceremony, my dad, who had great sense of humour told mom, “If I had known how much the flowers were going to cost, I would have...

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Growing Strong and Beautiful

Dr. Linda Hancock More from Self Improvement Self Improvement The Fifteenth Year

Every year I put a few pots of annuals on my condo’s deck. The other day I was disappointed to see that a storm had blown off all the blossoms from my trailing petunias. They were lying on the deck and needed to be swept away. A couple of days later, however, it shocked me to realize that there were even more blossoms on the plants that before the storm! All this got me to thinking about how our lives can be very much like container gardening. Each of us is a plant that needs the following; 1. Vessel or...

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Responding To Trouble

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health The Fifteenth Year

I find it so interesting that different people can have exactly the same things happen to them but each will respond in a different manner. One person might get drunk. Another might attempt suicide. A third could seek professional help. A fourth may discuss the situation with a friend or neighbour. A fifth person might not even pay attention or notice that there is trouble. That’s what makes us human. We each have thoughts, feelings and behaviours that we have learned over the years in order to navigate life. So, now that there is such easy access to news from...

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But What If…?

Dr. Linda Hancock Health and Fitness Mental Health Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

Over the past few weeks, the world has been experiencing a pandemic which has stolen almost everything that we previously called “Normal”.   No one seems to understand the virus and we are certainly getting very mixed messages from sources that previously we would trust and respect without question.     Articles that I wrote in the past addressed depression and anxiety.  You see, there has likely been degrees of depression and anxiety throughout recorded history – and perhaps even before that.   Those who experience depression are often “stuck” in the past.   They focus on the things that happened which are...

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