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Teach People How To Treat You

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Tenth Year

Teach People How To Treat You

Over the years I have had so many people tell me that they don't like the way that they are disrespected, ignored or abused often by their own family members. Despite their hurt and desire for change, the patterns continue. Now I'm not saying that you have to take the blame for everything that occurs, but there are certain things you can do to improve a situation or relationship: 1. Consider that it might not be your fault. Other people have bad days too and you just might have been in the wrong place at the wrong time. Just because...

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Gifts and Skills

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Tenth Year

Gifts and Skills

Draw a circle on a piece of paper. Inside that circle write two or three things that you are gifted at doing. These will be things that people have told you they admire. They are usually things that you do extremely well without much effort. They are gifts that you have. If you own a business or supervise a staff, it is important that you understand this concept. Putting people in their area of giftedness will increase productivity and satisfaction. If you want a career that you can enjoy for many years, make sure that you are in an organization...

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The Christmas Party

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Seventh Year

The Christmas Party

It is exciting! You have a new outfit and had taken extra care to make sure you are all "spiffed up". You are looking your very best. Just a little fragrance and minimal but perfectly-chosen jewelry make the final touches and you are ready to go. Everyone's been chatting it up for weeks. It's the annual Christmas Party. Eyes turn as you walk through the door. You look good and feel good. There's a relaxed atmosphere as everyone smiles and laughs easily. No one is talking about work tonight. Not a care in the world right now. You're here to...

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Work-Care Balance

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Seventh Year

Work-Care Balance

It was one of those crazy weeks where you wonder how on earth you are going to get everything done. I had just returned from my grandson's graduation in Saskatoon, which was lovely, but this also meant that I had been out of the office for several days. I knew that the mail would be piled up at the door and my inbox would have several hundred new emails demanding attention. My youngest son, who has been accepted in the Social Work program at the College, had agreed to begin working as part-time administrator in my office for the fall....

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Lies or Truth - You Decide!

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Seventh Year

Lies or Truth - You Decide!

It can be so hard to understand why people tell lies - especially when it seems obvious that they are lying and will be "caught". I remember once when parents came to see me because they were concerned about their daughter. They said "She lies all the time". My reply was "That's what liars do!" You see, it can be effective and done so often that it becomes a regular part of life for some. Over the years I have learned that individuals are motivated to lie for a number of reasons: 1. To avoid trouble or consequences - Children...

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Four Different Techniques To Deal With Life

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Fourth Year

Four Different Techniques To Deal With Life

Frequently I help clients to learn about four different ways of approaching life and how each of these either helps the individual or slows their progress. Following are summaries of each of these. 1. PASSIVE - Imagine that your life is like a football field. There aren't any boundaries to protect the turf which takes a beating as players and fans run onto it after the game. Those individuals who are passive, usually either don't know their personal needs or don't have skills to ensure that they are met. They allow other people to run all over them and tend...

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New Year's Resolutions - How Are You Doing With Your Goals?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques

New Year's Resolutions - How Are You Doing With Your Goals?

At the beginning of each year, individuals often follow the tradition of declaring resolutions.  Some may state that they plan to lose weight, save money, travel, quit smoking or resolve a personal issue within the following twelve months.  Those who own gyms are aware, however, that their January sales of memberships will fill the parking lots and crowd the facilities for only a short period of time.  In fact, they actually count on the fact that members will start their programs with passion that dies quickly within weeks.  By February, many who are contracted to pay for a year are absent...

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New Year - Tips For Doing Well in the Next Twelve Months

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Fourth Year

New Year - Tips For Doing Well in the Next Twelve Months

The economy, weather patterns, and health risks can find us standing at the beginning of a new year with fear.  One of the keys to turning fear into hope involves planning.  Those who plan well tend to do well. There are several things that you can do that will help to make your year better: 1.  Enjoy good health.  Since infancy we have been bombarded with education about good health practices but don't always observe them.  Choosing nutritious diet will allow your body the fuel that it needs.  Exercise, adequate sleep, dressing for weather conditions and striving for work/home balance...

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Four Steps to Help You With Any Situation Or Problem

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Fourth Year

Four Steps to Help You With Any Situation Or Problem

When people say "I want to change" they often don't know where to begin. This article outlines the steps to deal with any problem or situation. 1. Awareness - The first step to changing anything is to realize that there is a problem and be determined to change it. Unfortunately, when it comes to health issues, people often do not make a commitment to change until their physician threatens them with the consequences of things such as being overweight, continued smoking or lack of exercise. When you become aware of an area that you want to change you need to...

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Is There Hope When You Feel Like You Are Living in Chaos?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques

Is There Hope When You Feel Like You Are Living in Chaos?

Financial problems, unemployment, economic cycles, relationship problems or losses might be surrounding you. Are you having trouble sleeping? Do you invest most of your time and energy into worrying? How are you dealing with negative emotions? When you are feeling scared, out of control or helpless, do you know how to problem-solve and experience a sense of adventure despite the problems? There are several steps your can take to gain control and move from chaos into adventure (instead of nightmare mode): 1. Face the fact that you are having some problems. Admit to yourself that you are spending more than...

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Problem-Solving - How Do You Eat an Elephant?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Third Year

Problem-Solving - How Do You Eat an Elephant?

One bite at a time!   Life can pile up on us and all of a sudden we are facing what appears to be overwhelming tasks. The house is a mess, we have piles of unread mail, renovations never seem to end or work files all seem to be screaming for attention at the same time. The first step to cleaning up a mess is to decide that you are going to do it. Sitting and stewing about the problem will not solve it. Think about what you want the results to look like. Make a plan. Determine what resources...

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What Things Are 100% Preventable in This World?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Third Year

What Things Are 100% Preventable in This World?

So often we hear comments like "It couldn't be helped" or "It wasn't my fault. Blaming others and dodging responsibility are stances that are rampant in today's society. The other day I was thinking about things that are totally preventable and quickly came up with seven specific topics. There are likely many, many more, but let's just focus on a few of the possibilities: Pregnancy - This one is easy. No sex - no pregnancy. But abstinence seems to be rather rare. A second choice, therefore is birth control but I know many individuals who have used this and still become...

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Fear - How to Confront and Kill it So That You Can Succeed and Reach Your Potential

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Third Year

Fear - How to Confront and Kill it So That You Can Succeed and Reach Your Potential

One of the most damaging and limiting things in life is fear. Every week clients tell me about how they are restricted or stopped by things that they think present more risk than they are willing to confront. Fear forms the bars of the cages that hold us back. You see, when we are afraid of things, we do not take chances. Sometimes people have social phobias and are afraid to ask someone who attracts them to go on a date. Usually the person who is afraid is so focussed on his or her own inadequacies that the characteristics and...

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Problem-Solving - What Are Your Options?

Dr. Linda Hancock Self Improvement Techniques The Second Year

Problem-Solving - What Are Your Options?

Do you have a problem with another person that you cannot solve? There are several options that you might try: Do nothing - Many times individuals decide that they are afraid of making matters worse and so they choose to not do anything. This, unfortunately, can result in more complex relationship difficulties or even health problems including ulcers, headaches or other stress-related ailments for those involved. Communicate directly with the other person on your own. Often speaking honestly about your concerns in an open and respectful manner will resolve any misunderstandings or differences of opinion without any outside help. Litigation is a legal...

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