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A Challenge

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fifteenth Year

I always try things that I recommend for my clients to make sure that they are reasonable and achievable. Over the years, when clients have indicated that they are struggling financially I ask them “How much do you spend on groceries in a month?” Then “How much do you spend eating out or ordering in>?” Finally I query “If all the stores were closed and you couldn’t purchase anything there, how long could you go just by eating what you have in your house right now?” Often the replies are interesting. I hear things like: “But I wouldn’t have fresh...

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It Only Takes Two to Get Married

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fifteenth Year

My mom and dad were married on July 4, 1951. That morning mom went shopping for blue shoes to match her wedding dress. She knew that stores in Regina closed at noon on Wednesdays back then, but she needed the shoes as the ceremony was scheduled for one o’clock that day. The store didn’t have her size, so she purchased ones that were the right colour but too big for her feet! Before the ceremony, my dad, who had great sense of humour told mom, “If I had known how much the flowers were going to cost, I would have...

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It Feels Like the 1950s

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family Pandemic The Fifteenth Year

The pandemic that we have been experiencing has caused so many changes in our lives. I was thinking the other day that a lot of what we are doing reminds me of growing up in the 1950s:   Travel - I remember when, in grade eleven, my parents decided that it would be important for our family to go on our first major trip. We drove to British Columbia where we stayed with a family friend in his cabin on Vancouver Island. We spent a day at Stanley Park. You see, we didn't have a lot of money or opportunities...

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Where Is Your Home?

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fourteenth Year

The Merriam-Webster dictionary has several different definitions for the word "home". One states that it is a place of residence. Another defines it as a familiar or usual setting or congenial environment and a third states that it is a place of origin. The dictionary goes on to define the term "at home" which includes being relaxed and comfortable, in harmony with the surroundings and on familiar ground. I think we all recognize the fact that a home is more than just a building, but individuals may conger up very different meanings when they hear or use the term "home"....

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Pretend You Live Alone

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fourteenth Year

So often I hear family members complain about how others make a mess and are not willing to help with the cleanup. They want things done a certain way at a certain time and feel upset, blaming everyone else who lives in the house for this mood. When they come to me as clients, they believe that I have magic powers that will instantly change everyone but don't expect what I have to say about their dilemma. I frequently see looks of surprise when I tell them that I live alone and therefore don't have anyone to blame when the...

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Inter-Generational Fun

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

INTER-GENERATIONAL FUN! I had such a wonderful long weekend! My grandson, Justin, who is nineteen years of age, called and asked if he could come for a visit. He had recently been promoted at work to a management position and got a raise, so he was financially able and excited to make the trip from Saskatoon to Medicine Hat. I believe it was the first fairly major adventure that he planned and undertaken all by himself! Justin had been living with his dad but recently decided to move in with a couple of friends. That was when he first realized...

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Royal and Non-Royal Similarities

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Thirteenth Year

When we think about the royal family, our minds automatically include castles, riches and pageantry. What we forget about, however, is the fact that all families have things in common and, like us, the royals are not excluded from problems. Queen Elizabeth has been admired for several reasons. One is that she has been on the throne for sixty-six years and has committed to serving for her entire life. A second is that she does not air any of her relatives "dirty linen". In fact, she has never allowed a media interview and does not talk publicly about her personal...

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The Family Orange

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Twelfth Year

I love looking at the fresh produce at the grocery store. Often I have been enticed by large, beautiful oranges and then am disappointed to find that what I have purchased is mostly peel! You can't eat the peel but it does serve to protect the fruit that lives inside of it. Sometimes it is juicy and nutritious. Sometimes it is small or rotten. Families can be like oranges. Each of us was raised in an environment surrounded by boundaries or peels that separate us from the world. Often, the thicker the peel, the more dysfunction in the family unit....

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I'm Heading to England

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Ninth Year

When you read this article, I will be on the first day of my big trip to the United Kingdom. In 1886 my paternal grandfather was born in Hammersmith to a single mother. England was troubled economically and socially at the time. Jack the Ripper and the plague threatened its population. It was what Charles Dickens called "The best of times and the worst of times". His works entitled "Oliver Twist" and "David Copperfield" painted the picture of how difficult life was for everyone back then - but especially for the children. Many individuals rose up in England to help...

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Serendipity: Creating a Gift and Leaving a Legacy

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family

I wasn't sure what to give my only nephew for a wedding gift. You see, he and his fiancé were well established, and their house had everything they needed. Then I got an idea. What about getting an electronic photo frame with scanned photos of his life and family throughout the years? We could even add music to it. When my mother died, I was left with several boxes of pictures and it was always my plan to go through and sort them but until this summer that had never happened. Because the school term was over, I thought that...

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Where Are You From?

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Seventh Year

Since I was a young child, I have enjoyed hearing stories from friends and relatives about our ancestors and the experiences that they had. My maternal grandmother would say "I am going to tell you, Linda, because someone has to remember" and then would go into great detail about the people and events that were long-gone but stored in her memory. She would also have me repeat words to the Lord's Prayer in Norwegian, line by line until I had the proper pronunciation. It was obvious that she believed she had a legacy of stories to pass on to me...

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When Your Young Child Dies

Dr. Linda Hancock Death Dying Home and Family Other Home and Family The Seventh Year

The first time that you held your newborn baby in your arms you dreamed of life, vitality and the future. It likely never crossed your mind that your child might actually die before you. And so, when this happened, it is no wonder that you found yourself confused, upset and shocked. This isn't the way that you planned it! Other people, with the best of intentions might offer advice that upsets you even more than you had been before they said it. You don't want to hear that you were "lucky" to have had the child for a short time,...

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How to Stop Morning Sickness When Pregnant

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family

Morning sickness is horrible! I remember going through it and wondering if I would even survive. The good news is that only about half of women experience this and it usually only lasts from about the sixth week of pregnancy to the third or fourth month. It is hard to treat something unless you know the cause and unfortunately no one has figured out exactly what that would be. Some believe that hormonal changes or imbalance of blood sugar are the culprits. Each person is complex and unique so it is therefore important that you study your situation and determine...

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Tips for Keeping Your House Clean and Organized Without Much Effort

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family

I have heard a number of my younger clients talk about how overwhelming it is to do housework. Most of them tell me that they have one day a week when all the family members spend the day cleaning. I found this kind of hard to understand until I realized that most of them let everything go for several days and then face an almost overwhelming situation. Following are some tips for keeping your house clean and organized without much effort: 1. Do not walk anywhere around the house or yard with empty hands. If you are going to the...

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Reasons Why People Do or Don't Want Funerals

Dr. Linda Hancock Death Dying Home and Family Other Home and Family

Lately there seems to be more of a trend towards not having funerals when individuals die. Some of this stems from the decisions that the person made before death and some from the decisions of the family members after the death. I think there are three main reasons why funerals are held for individuals and three for why they are not held. First the reasons why they are not held: 1. Finances - Funerals can be very expensive and often families cannot afford to have them. The person who is dying might even make a request that any estate that...

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Three Things You Should Do If Your Teen Runs Away from Home

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Sixth Year

Often clients come to see me in a state of crisis. They are afraid, embarrassed and worried because their teenager has run away from home. More than anything, they are desperate to get them back but don't know how to do that. Before you go frantically racing out and kidnapping them, consider the following: 1. Find the child and tell him/her that you love and want them to be safe. Offer to drive them to a shelter or connect them with a community resource. Recognize that if the child was upset enough to run away, there must be something seriously...

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Three Things You Should Do If Your Teen Runs Away From Home

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family

Often clients come to see me in a state of crisis. They are afraid, embarrassed and worried because their teenager has run away from home. More than anything, they are desperate to get them back but don't know how to do that. Before you go frantically racing out and kidnapping them, consider the following:1. Find the child and tell him/her that you love and want them to be safe. Offer to drive them to a shelter or connect them with a community resource. Recognize that if the child was upset enough to run away, there must be something seriously wrong....

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Options to Consider When Picking a New Hobby

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family

Each of us is unique and choosing a hobby therefore needs to be something that is uniquely suited to our interests, personal characteristics, financial situation and abilities. I am always so interested in the things that people do as hobbies. Many use their creativity to come up with ideas that have not been chartered by anyone else. One man in our community, for example, has collected and painted thousands of miniature figures to recreate a war scene. It's definitely not a mobile work that can be easily transported but it has attracted the attention of hundreds of people who are...

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Renovations Can Drive You Crazy!

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Fifth Year

My sister and her husband decided to put new siding on their house and garage. They chose the colour, purchased the materials and eagerly looked forward to the finished result - several months ago! Every day they look expectantly out the window hoping that the contractor will arrive to complete the work and are repeatedly disappointed when he doesn't show up. It is so frustrating for them! They are not alone. Most people who are doing home improvement projects live to tell horror stories about their experiences. Following are a few things you should consider before you even start renovating:...

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Life is Like a Chess Game

Dr. Linda Hancock Home and Family Other Home and Family The Second Year

The game of chess is strategic and complex. So is family life! Let us consider the similarities between the two. The Player - Game pieces and people are unique in their size, shape and abilities. They each have at least one role to play. Learning the rules - Chess and life are complex activities. It is therefore important to study and learn from others in order to understand what moves can be effective and how to stay out of trouble. The good news is we all have the opportunity to develop skills and improve our game! Offence - To move forward and make...

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