Articles — Grandparenting

Life Is Short! Act Now

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Life Is Short! Act Now

This week my twelve-year-old granddaughter received horrible news. For the second time in a matter of weeks a grandfather has died. Her paternal grandfather had heart surgery about a year ago but seemed to have recovered fairly well. So, everyone was surprised when he passed a few weeks ago. Mikaeli had several opportunities to be with him in her life and got to know him quite well. Because she is so interested in genealogy she was pleased when a number of old photographs were found in his belongings and we have plans to upload these onto the family tree together....

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Influence: Parenting and Grandparenting

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Influence: Parenting and Grandparenting

We had three graduations in our family this year, so spring was busy! Andrew turned eighteen in May and graduated from grade twelve in June. I was surprised to watch all the goings-on to prepare him for the ceremonies and celebrations. His brother gave him a suit to wear. His father took him shopping for a belt and shoes. His mother ordered the corsage for his escort and, an hour before we were to leave, was ironing his shirt so it would be freshly pressed. Thinking that this might be an opportunity to provide a little practical direction, I suggested...

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Influencing Your Grandchildren

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Influencing Your Grandchildren

I just returned from a week of being with my eighteen and fourteen-year-old grandsons while their parents were on a golfing trip in Montana. My calendar indicated that I would be away "for influencing purposes". You see I can't change the boys and really don't want to do that because they are fine young men, but I really did hope that I could expand their horizons a little. Their mother always states that she likes the fact I do things with them that they would otherwise miss in life and it does take them away from those all-consuming computers for...

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Things to Prepare Before Going to an Outing

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Things to Prepare Before Going to an Outing

This week is our city's Stampede and I have been blessed to have my daughter and her family stay with me in order to attend. There were several things that I did in order to prepare so that we could truly enjoy our time together and you might want to do the same when your family arrives. Schedule time off - It is important that you have time to enjoy the activities when you have a chance to do so. I decided to work hard for the days before they arrived, taking extra client appointments, so that I would meet...

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The Five Best Things You Can Do For Your Grandchild

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

The Five Best Things You Can Do For Your Grandchild

Sometimes when grandchildren arrive, you wonder what kind of relationship you will have with them. It is tempting to want to buy them gifts and treats every time you see them but doing so has its flaws. It can be difficult at times to hear that they have made poor choices or behaved badly. You may want to dig right in with the hope that you can help solve the problem, but then become confused about when and how that should happen. You know that you are not the parent but might not be sure about the boundaries for your...

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Three Gift-Giving Mistakes

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Three Gift-Giving Mistakes

This week a grandparent told me how sad she was when her little grandson opened the gift she had carefully purchased and wrapped for him only to throw it to the side saying, "I already have this". There are three mistakes that grandparents make when they give gifts that can be avoided: Not knowing what the children have already - We live in an age of materialism where children often have more than they need or want. People freely spend their money on toys and other gifts even if it isn't a special occasion. You will never likely keep up with...

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I'm Worried About My Grandchild

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

I'm Worried About My Grandchild

It's hard being a grandparent. You see we are filled with this overwhelming love for the little person and, at the same time, feel that we know exactly what that child needs. Sometimes we might not like the parent of the child or are upset about the choices that s/he makes in their parenting. Perhaps we think that discipline is lacking (or too strict). Maybe our adult child has a partner who we think is a poor example or just plain irresponsible. I have heard clients talk about how they believe that the grandchild suffers when the parents do not...

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Learning About What Your Grandchildren Like to Eat

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Learning About What Your Grandchildren Like to Eat

Whenever I am with my grandchildren, I want to know more about them.  Today I am with my ten-year-old grandson and he is helping me to understand what types of food he enjoys. Strawberries - He likes to eat these either whole or cut.  Sometimes he puts cream or whipped cream on them. Octopus - I was shocked to hear that he had even tried this.  He explained that when they were in Mexico, he had octopus.  It was cooked and had a crunchy outside. Cinnamon Buns - Andrew likes to eat these heated in the microwave with caramel, chocolate...

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What Your Teenage Grandchildren Love to Do

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

What Your Teenage Grandchildren Love to Do

Sometimes grandparents state that they don't understand teenagers.  Today I have been with my 14-year-old grandson and he has helped me understand what he enjoys. Here are the things that Alexander enjoys: Xbox - This is a game system which is self-contained.  He can lose all sense of time with this. Movies - He prefers comedy, action, adventure but not romance. Cooking - His favourite thing is to be able to eat it when it is done.  He likes making up new recipes.  Today I watched him eat an open-faced toasted peanut butter and honey and banana sandwich. Skiing -...

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How to Be a Gift-Giving Success at Christmas!

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

How to Be a Gift-Giving Success at Christmas!

I have six grandchildren ranging in age from 3 years to 14 years of age. Each year I have tried to shop for the "perfect" gift for each. Then I would spend hours and considerable money wrapping, labeling, packaging, and shipping parcels. Sometimes I would get a telephone thank you and sometimes I would phone to see how the gifts were received. How disappointing it was when I would hear that things didn't fit, were duplicates or were just not needed. This year, I decided to do something completely different. Here are the seven specific steps I took: I telephoned...

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A Mutually Beneficial Relationship

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

A Mutually Beneficial Relationship

I once read an article that asked, "Why do grandparents and their grandchildren get along so well?" The answer was "Common Enemy". I'm sure that the intent of this story was to illicit a chuckle from the reader but often, in my private practice, I see an unhealthy alliance between these two separate generations against the parents of the children. Being a grandparent has a number of advantages. Often retirement allows time and finances that were not present for individuals when they raised their own children. Grandparents have "experience" and "wisdom" that they may have lacked in previous years and...

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The Rules

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

The Rules

Often my adult children, with shocked expressions, ask me "How did you get them to do that?" They are referring to the fact that their children who are "picky eaters" enjoy stew or other foods that they won't eat at home. Sometimes they surprise their parents by doing laundry, baking, or cleaning up their messes when they are staying with me and again, I hear "How did you get them to do that?" My grandchildren know the rules - and they follow them. I believe that we have wonderful times together, partly because we all know where we stand and...

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Communicating With Your Grandchildren

Dr. Linda Hancock Grandparenting Home and Family

Communicating With Your Grandchildren

The subject line of the email simply read "Tee-hee". I was surprised to open it and realize that it was from my ten year old granddaughter. She obviously was happy and had used what I thought was an old-fashioned term to describe her mood. Inside were a number of flashing icons including stars, happy faces and hearts. I couldn't help but smile just to see them. I don't know when I will hear from my granddaughter, but her emails are always uplifting. Janaya's messages are usually full of news. She told me about the music festival where she had done...

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