Articles — Friendship(8)

Genuine Friendship

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Seventh Year

Genuine Friendship

I just had two lovely conversations with treasured long-term friends. (I won't call them "old friends" because that might imply that we are aging). First of all, I was pleased to have an unplanned meeting with Bryan. He is CEO for a government agency and one of the first people who I met when I moved to Medicine Hat. I reported to work that morning sixteen years ago and he quickly began introducing me to other employees. His kindness was appreciated, and our friendship began forming right then as he gave me a comfortable start in my new workplace. Over...

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The Gift of Friendship

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Fifth Year

The Gift of Friendship

I was recently invited by a couple who I have known for some time to join them for Saturday dinner at their home. Because it was a warm evening we decided to eat on their deck and ended up spending several hours out there.\ Our time together consisted of sharing a beautiful meal and warm conversation. We talked and talked and talked and talked. We talked about our families, work, health, interests, travel, and dreams. We shared information about things that we had recently learned of people who we all knew. Our stories were sprinkled with laughter and the shared...

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The Power of Having Good Support in Your Life

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Fourth Year

The Power of Having Good Support in Your Life

I just got back from the golf course. No, I have not turned over a new leaf and decided to take up the sport. In fact, I had to use a map to find the place! The reason that I chose to do this "not like Linda" activity is because I had arranged to meet with a fellow-columnist Trevor Moore. He is a golf pro and magician who, like me, has a wide range of interests outside of his normal career. Over the years I have found that it is so important to have a group of friends, supports and...

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What Are the Three Ingredients That Form a Good Friendship?

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships

What Are the Three Ingredients That Form a Good Friendship?

There are many definitions for the word "friend" but those relationships that have three ingredients are the most satisfying. This article describes the things that turn acquaintances into good friends. Three things that will help you measure the value of a friendship are: To KNOW them - It takes time to get to know the interests, patterns, and character of another person. You cannot know anything or anyone unless you are willing to ask good questions, be observant and invest in that person. When you share thoughts, feelings, and activities, you are able to learn about the other person. To LIKE a person...

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Three Mistakes That People Make with Their Relationships

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Fourth Year

Three Mistakes That People Make with Their Relationships

Everyone seems to support the idea of having friends but not everyone knows how to keep their friendships healthy and growing.  This article describes three mistakes that people do which harms or destroys their relationships. NOT COMMUNICATING IN A HEALTHY MANNER - Communication requires effort.  Assuming what the other person is thinking or doing can be very deceptive and can lead to incorrect conclusions.  In order to understand the perspective of the other person, you must be willing to ask good questions, show respect while the person explains and then discuss the situation.  Sometimes, miscommunication requires that the individuals forgive themselves and...

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Ten Things That You Can Do to Become a Better Friend

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Fourth Year

Ten Things That You Can Do to Become a Better Friend

  So often I hear people talk about how they want to have good friends but don't seem to consider how they could become a good friend. This article outlines ten things that you can do to become a better friend to others:   LISTEN - Everyone needs an audience - some more than others. When you listen to another person, you are paying a compliment to them because it shows that you are interested in what they have to say and respect to the right they have to say it. MAINTAIN CONFIDENTIALITY - Friends do not share information that...

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Can You Get All Your Needs Met Through One Relationship?

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships

Can You Get All Your Needs Met Through One Relationship?

Sometimes I hear individuals state that they do not have any friends and are sad because of this. Others tell me that they have some friends who take advantage of them. A third group talk of their thankfulness for a wonderful number of friendships that are mutually satisfying. Friendships often develop between people who share common interests. I enjoy asking friends how they initially met each other and usually hear interesting stories about how they had been in the same class, group, or club at some point. This provides some insight for those who state that they don't have friends....

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Friendship is Priceless!

Dr. Linda Hancock Friendship Relationships The Third Year

Friendship is Priceless!

Over the years I have been very blessed by an amazing number of individuals who I class as friends. They come in all sizes, shapes, ages and live in various countries around the world. The American Heritage Dictionary describes a friend as "one whom you know, like and trust". Getting to know someone takes time and effort. It requires dialogue and sharing as well as patience and understanding. Developing the friendship can be an interesting adventure which helps you to expand your own perspectives and about issues and cultures. Liking another person can be an instantaneous experience or take considerable time to...

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