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Don't Be Fooled by What a Person Promises

Dr. Linda Hancock Commitment Relationships The Fourth Year

So often we hear individuals make promises about their devotion and commitment but later become disillusioned or disappointed that they do not follow through.  This article examines the factors that lead to a dysfunctional cycle within a relationship when couples "talk the talk" but do not "walk the walk". THE PROMISER:  When Paris Hilton was incarcerated, one of the television programs interviewed a judge and the host asked "Do you think that Paris will change now that she has become a born-again Christian in jail?"  The wise judge responded, "Everyone is born-again their first week in jail".  When people are...

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Do You Walk the Walk?

Dr. Linda Hancock Commitment Relationships The Fourth Year

If you were in a restaurant, what beverage would you request? Do you have a favourite drink that you "always" order? What vehicle do you drive? Is it a North American model? Do you always buy the same make? How long have you been at your job? Are you loyal to the employer? What about your neighbourhood, and radio station and preferred brand of clothing? Are you loyal? When we think about commitment, most people associate the word with relationships. But it is much bigger than that. Commitment touches almost every area of your life. It includes the sports team...

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The Thread That Holds People Together!

Dr. Linda Hancock Commitment Relationships The Third Year

Frequently couples come to see me about their relationship problems. They recite what appears to be an endless list of the sins that the other person has committed which has negatively affected the partnering. Sometimes I am told about differences in values, financial indiscretions or disappointments from unfulfilled promises. In one form or another, however, I hear individuals talk about the need for the other person to improve his or her attitude. Many of the complaints are not the problem but are actually a consequence or result of the underlying problem. Couples who began the relationship with starry-eyed wonder can...

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